Here is the thing. I got with this girl about 2 years ago, and she was very shy in the bed. Now after being with her for this long she still is very shy. When I say "shy" I mean that she just kinda lays there when we are about to have sex. I get almost nothing. I mean she stated at one point that oral sex is something she is not comfortable with, and I basically took that as I'll never get it from her. That is cool with me but since she is so "shy" foreplay is basically non-exhistant. This is kinda bothering me because I like fore-play, and I don't like jumping straight into sex. I try and play with her but that damn shyness comes in again and blocks me so we just end up jumping straight into sex. I have talked calmly and loudly about the matter on separate occasions, but still no change. I am at the end of my rope and I just don't know what to do/think/believe about this. Should I just end this?
2006-11-09 13:47:05 · 11 answers · asked by Slappin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. End it and become a real man by not having sex with people you're not even married to.
2006-11-09 13:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Some ladies just arn't into different positons and oral and stuff like that they may have had a bad sexual experience in the past or are somewhat religious beliefs that wont let them give in 100%
You knew she was shy from the start so you cant complain because the way you go into a relationship is the way its always going to be. If you guys tried talking about it and she wont change them maybe if its a big deal to you you should let her go.
Please take into consideration that maybe she had a bad sexual experience in the past that makes her think sex is dirty or wont allow her to get into it the way she should.
2006-11-09 13:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by kaliprincess82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did something happen to her?
Maybe she is not very experienced or doesn't know what to do or what to ask for.
Still comunicate with her, your gonna have to take thing really slow (I know this sucks -lol-) and try something different. what about getting an erotic book that you can see together and explore and maybe she may change her mind.
If something did happen to her, nothing you say or do will change her unless she choose to seek help. Just be there to support her in anything she needs.
2006-11-09 13:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well written. This sounds like a heritage issue i.e. family view of sex. It also suggests she loves you a great deal to share herself w/ you when her self-body image is so low.
I'd suggest some counseling. I don't hear the technique as being as much of a problem as the mental attitude.
Check out why you first wanted to be with her - she hasn't changed.
2006-11-09 13:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey 3 words SEX TOY SHOP. See how shy she is after visiting one of these. If she has any inhibitions she want have them for long.
2006-11-09 13:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by H Town Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good question and well written :) Thank God. I wouldn't put too much pressure on her. Back off a little and give her a chance. If she really loves you she will come around. I honestly feel you may have her cornered and she feels like she may be on trial. God Bless and good luck.
2006-11-09 13:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! you shoudn't end it. it would break her heart. Just sit her down and REALLY talk to her. Calmly talk to her. Make sure she understands. Also make sure that you come to a compromise. Then live with it.
2006-11-09 13:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by saddleclub_cowgirl145 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to her about it. Dont yell. MAybe something has happened in her past that is bothering her about this? that is all i can say. You have to talk to her, but dont pressure her. And dont end it because of this. THAT IS STUPID.
2006-11-09 13:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabey she got molested as a kid..who knows,,mabey u guys should go to a sex theypist
2006-11-09 13:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame - Shame on you. Do you really want everyone to know what you're doing. Shame - Shame again!!
2006-11-09 13:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋