someone please help me to understand?

Question

i have been in a relasionship with a man for over 2 yrs we are of different races i know he love me very much but i hear him put down my race alot when speakin in general ....my question is how could he say some of the things he says and and what to marry me

Answer 1

interesting how many of the answerers in here assume they know what race you are.

If what he says bothers you its going to grate on you more and more. Best to get it out in the open now and talk to him about it. It's way past time.

Answer 2

All this hate between races really boils down to behavior that has been passed down from generation to generation. The word Ne gro comes from a Latin word meaning black. The word *** ger is a word that means lazy, slovenly and ignorant. Notice there was no mention of skin color. (see Webster dictionary) I have no problem with black people myself. What I do have a problem with is the black person that uses the history of how their race has been persecuted and discriminated against as an excuse to wallow in self pity. Every attempt to help the black people of this country to compete on an equally basis for the American dream has failed. Not because of a lack of financial support but in most part because of abuse and lack of initiative of the black community. They scream 400 years of persecution. The Jews have been persecuted for 4000 years and were the first slaves on this planet. They were targeted for total genocide by the Germans. You don’t see them on the evening new being arrested for drug distribution. The American Indian was driven off their lands and relocated to areas no one else wanted and they don’t use that as an excuse to abandon the unwed mothers of their children to hang with the homeys and drink 40s. People from Middle Eastern countries come to this country with next to nothing and become business owners and shop keepers and productive members of society. The black culture at first only wanted equality. Now it seems that they want to be better and have a way of life that is radically different and not accepted as mainstream American values. The ****** act the way they do because they want to be noticed and they are, buy the police and other law enforcement agencies. White people founded this country. Ethnic groups from every corner of the world help build it and defend it and still serve it today. We are not crackers, *** gers, specks, degos, waps, rednecks, kites, wet backs or towel heads, WE ARE AMERICANS. We have to start working together for the good of this great nation and all of its people or this country will become a nation of losers, and other nations will have a justification for their anti-Americanism.

Answer 3

Let me tell you I have dated interracially for years and it is very disrespectful to put down any race. Some men only experiement. Are you the first black woman he been in a relationship with? Tell him that it bothers you when he put our race down. Tell him is very disrespectful and you would appreciate if he would not do it anymore. If he really love you, he will respect you

Answer 4

Domination through intimidation

Answer 5

Maybe you should communicate your feelings about this topic to him and explain ( don't get into an argument) to him how it hurts/bothers you that he does this.