is taking a break mean your not dating the significant other. or are you still together but not seeing eachother as much anymore?
my bf of 2 years is "taking a break" to focus on school more since the semester is winding down, he also works almost 40 hours a week. i just saw him, he took me out and bought dinner. we hugged and kissed and said i love you. he wants to get back together after the semester.
and please do not say he's using me cause he's a great guy and wouldnt do that. we are both in our second year in college and he's taking alot of difficul classes. so right now he says "we're just friends" yet we hugged and kissed tonight. i dont know whats going on...im just really confused
he says he doesnt want to be "dating" me cause he doesnt want to feel obligated to see me and doesnt see ap oint in dating someone that he sees once in a while...
so what is "taking a break" does that mean you are still together?
do you know where we stand right now??
please dont sayhe's usingme
2006-11-09 13:38:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says hes not interested in dating anyone else sicne our feelings are really strong for eachother. he wants to get back together next month after the semester ends. we both love eachother very much and i know he's very stressed right now.
2006-11-09 13:41:43 · update #1
he does want to work on school a few months ago he wanted to take a break and focus on school. but that didnt happen, he tried twice but didnt want to leave. now his grades are worse than ever. and needs to reaise his GPA, hes usually a straugth A student now he's getting D's and C's... =\ i want the best for him but im just confused about our relationship, he's a very very hard worker
2006-11-09 13:43:28 · update #2
he does not want to date around......
2006-11-09 13:45:16 · update #3
he does not want to sleep around!!! he doesn not want to date other peopel! we still ove eachother! he has never lied to me or anything! and he says he wasnt to get back together! after the semester ends! he just wants to get through school first.
2006-11-09 13:46:43 · update #4
hey.. hun...if he hugged n kissed u and says he wants to get back together after the semester,it means exactly that. If he would not have kissed u i would have said he jus wants to go out with other girls-but since he did i would definitly say thats not the case.....and don't worry he isn't using u.....
he dose not want to be with you right now because he feels pressure from school and feels he can't give u as much attention as u need and as he would like to give u,so he wants to break it off right now,jus have a little time alone to sort his mind out and get back together-don't worry i think he's a great guy and u should hold on to him-but do call him now n then to show him ur thinkin about him,it will go fine,believe me i've been there!
take care
~Ally
2006-11-09 13:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna hurt
He wants to leave you. Sorry its the truth. He is focusing on other things that he finds important and wants to take a break from you and the relationship you share. He still tells you those things and kisses you because he is as afraid to lose you as you are to lose him. However in guy talk, taking a break is a nice way of saying we are no longer dating. He thinks that he is free to do as he pleases now, and the sad thing is (brace yourself I am going to say it) he may be using you as a back up in case he doesn't find anything else that he likes. He's exploring.
Tell him you are either together or not, that he can't have both. Its not fair to you. He's out exploring and moving on while your stuck wondering whats going on. Whatever his answer is, hold him to it, if not he'll think that he can get away with this in the future too.
Good luck lady.
2006-11-09 13:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually means I want time away from you to see if there is anyone else out there for me, however if I can't find anyone or get tired with the people I've found, I'll look you up and we can pick up where we left off. The good news here is HE ISN'T USING YOU....bad news HE DUMPED YOU! You are definitely not together, however from the hug and kiss sounds like he might want a break with benefits. You aren't a couple anymore, but if you want to be clear on it, just ask him. Ask him will he be seeing other people and if you are still a couple.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-11-09 13:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that he loves you enough that he believes he is not spending enough time with you, or at least the time he feels you deserve. If he spends as much time with you as he would like, his grades would suffer and he could flunk out. He wants to make good grades so he can graduate. The break is a change of focus on his studies. He just does not have the will power to leave you and study, so he needs to see you less.
It is a communication issue. You should strive for quality time over quantity. Sometimes taking a break is because of commitment issues, not wanting to commit to just one person from here on out. That is not the case, he wants to finish his classes so he can devote more attention to you. He is not using you, he just has a time management problem.
2006-11-09 13:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, Dont believe him right away, dont give in either.
when was the last time your mom said, 'hey i'm kind of tired of being your mom, so for the next few months, we're just friends'?
love does NOT and will NEVER work that way.
Mainly because he said he doesn't see the point in dating you because he doesn't want to feel obligated to see you, and he doesn't see why daiting is important even if you see eachother once a week.
honey, listen, if he really loved you, and he wanted to be with you, he wouldn't be taking a break.
He would be eager for you two to be together, and loyal and committed. He would try to write to you, even if he couldn't see you.
People are married to people in the military that can o nly see eachother for a week or two out of the entire year, yet they are still married, because they care deeply for eachother, and ther eis a point.
Being someone's girlfriend or boyfriend, is a title, to uphold, throughout the entire relationship, you cant put love on hold. It's not how it works.
To me it seems like he wants a break, not because he is busy, or not because he's doing alot of schooling. But because he was with you for 2 years, and feels overwhelmed by the relationship, but you bought the busy for school part.
He might want to see other people, without feeing guilty, this could be only because he wants to be sure it is you he wants to be with though, so dont take huge offense in it.
Also, i've seen relationships whre, the guy says we'll get back together, but after such and such a time, but then makes it so the girl might not want to come back to him, or the time ends up being pushed back.
Listen, I wont say he's using you. But i will tell you, Taking a break is a 50/50 deal, you have to agree to it too.
If he says he wants to take a break, you have to want to too.
He cant put you on hold to wait for him, to make the right decision.
You need to seek out new peopel too, and see what is going on in your own head. Sometimes we feel comfortable with one person, and dont want to move on, even though we know there are better opportunities out there.
It's up to you, with what you want to do.
Try telling him no, you dont want a break, and if he still wants one, then tell him it's over, and that you can wait for him to decide whats important, and that if he loves you, he can work out a way to see you, because sometime like love is not something that can be put on a side burner, and you are not left overs.
Please think of my advice even if it hurts you, i've been in a similar circumstance...
If you believe the other people who answered your question then, fine, they too are jaded by thinking men are deep and emotional, when they aren't as deep as you think.
Tell him, you're willing to see him, even if it's just once a week, and that those days can be special, but you dont want to give up on your relationship.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 13:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by anjui63 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break means just that he wants to do just that. I was in the same situation a while back and it was very similar. We were both taking too many units in school to find time to see each other. I don't think you have anything to worry about. I think you should be happy to have a boyfriend that is thinking of his future and as focused as he is on his school. You should take this break yourself and take care of other priorities as well. Sometimes we are too wrapped up in someone to realize that there are other things in life as well that our attention. Good luck!!!
2006-11-09 13:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First "taking a break" can mean just not seeing much of one another.
Second get some clarity. He could mean he is dating others.
He could mean he is so busy he just really doesn't have time for social things.
It has been my experience is something or someone is important enough you make time for them.
Consider that.
Using you, no using you would be not calling and not even telling you.
Ask him more questions. Start with that and remember what I said if something is important enough you MAKE time for it.
2006-11-09 13:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by dayakaur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break - An excuse to be able to see other people without the drama or guilt if they were to be seen in public and if so the usual answer would be remember were taking a break we are just friends.
2006-11-09 13:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by H Town Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its over. the taking a break line is old and is used when you dont want ot hurt the other person bluntly. you see, after a few months you will get the picture and move on, this is the intent of the saying.
move on, you are worthy to someone else out there.
2006-11-09 13:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say he's using you, but it sounds like to me he may be wanting to 'play the field' a bit, without having to worry about you catching him or his own guilt. I hope I'm wrong. Perhaps he really is a hard worker, but look at it this way; there are Husbands out there doing more work and school than that, and they have families...
2006-11-09 13:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋