My girlfriend lives in LA. I live 100 miles away. Today is her birthday. She is going out for a birthday dinner with her friends that live in LA. I want to be with her on her birthday, but she says today is just for her friends and family and that I should not invite myself. One of the friends she is going out with tonight (who has a girlfriend) is male, so it is not just girls going out. She said she would come see me for the weekend and we would celebrate her birthday then. I feel strange that she does not want me around on her birthday today. Also, she never wants me to go out with her in LA. When she wants to see me, she comes to my town. Is it strange that she does not want me to be with her on her birthday, and that she considers it a time for her friends and family only? I have been dating her 3 years.
2006-11-09 13:28:28 · 22 answers · asked by Steve D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
she doesn't like u no more.
2006-11-09 13:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by michela411 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A 3 year boyfriend is not at the party? 100 miles is at best a 2 hour drive! More than odd! Birthdays and most occasions are spent with boyfriends/mates/spouses etc....
And she never wants you to go out with her in LA? And only wants to date you in YOUR town?
You have all the signs and symptoms of a guy about to be dumped. And I think you know it. It may not be what you want to hear, but I think you already suspect foul play or you wouldn't be asking.
I am certain you will get replies from people that say "let her have it". But you know in your heart that this isn't right for a couple of 3 years.
Personally I just wouldn't be available next weekend for the aftermath of her birthday! Here's a card..................
2006-11-09 21:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being used. do you give her money and special things and take her to special places when she comes to see you??
what did you guys do on her birthday the last 2 years? if its been three years and your not more important to her than that then somethings not right. i think your her guy on the side.
when you do go see her does she make up excuses why she wants to stay in?? like she had a hard week and just wants to relax. or she hasn't seen you in so long she just wants to be with you?? those are ok once in a while but every time??
man, it's time for you to forget about her. find someone closer to you. someone you can see on a regular basis.
also, get a backbone. it sounds like you let her set all the rules. it takes two to be in a relationship. you should have your say as much as she has hers. i'm not saying you need to become a jerk. just that you need to stand up for yourself.
good luck.
2006-11-09 22:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the friendship you offer this girl isn't as strong as she wants to return. I'd say she's not much of a girlfriend.
Because you're willing to travel the 100 miles to get to her celebration, that shows your willingness and good intentions. If it were me in your shoes I'd begin looking elsewhere for better female company and companionship.
I could be wrong, but this girlfriend you have in LA comes up short in too many departments. Don't argue or debate your reasons to move on without her; that's none of her business anymore.
2006-11-09 21:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely strange. I would feel left out, and pretty upset if i were you. I would ask her to explain why it is that family and "friends" were only invited, arent you a "friend"??? If she can't seem to come up with a satisfactory answer(which is just about impossible), I would give her a break for a while, and get some friends of my own.
2006-11-09 21:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by prettydebutante 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never had been in a romantic relationship before, so I woudn't be the most reliable source, but I agree with you that this is really weird. If it was a girl's night out it might be okay, but since this isn't than maybe something's going on.
2006-11-09 21:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by mandamandapanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly OK in her right. She seems to be a 'family-gal', let her enjoy her birthday as she wishes. Ask her not to forget bringing you a morsel of the cake 100 miles away to have the flavor of the party.
2006-11-09 21:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 3 years? Strange is an understatement. I'd say she has a life (along with men you don't know) outside of your relationship.
2006-11-09 21:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has lost interest in you and is trying to give you the hint. Maybe she hasn't yet worked up the nerve to actually tell you so and is hoping that the relationship will just fizzle out on its own. Does she hate confrontation? If so, that's definitely your answer.
I think you already suspect that she is up to something because you pointed out yourself that she never wants to be around you in her hometown. My advice: Move on.
2006-11-09 21:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by kirsten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what it is; it sure is telling you something. What's with everyone sharing her special time together with her except her boyfriend. She is insensitive or she's just not that in to you anymore, probably both! Sorry but I think you may want to talk to her and think about taking time to move on, it's one way feel better...?
2006-11-09 21:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by carri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to be friends in a relationships. Remember that song, "How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?" I find it odd..
I think she's cheating becuase she didn't invite you, she had a particular guy friend there, and she comes down to see you, and not vice versa. Ask her for your sake.
2006-11-09 21:33:01 · answer #11 · answered by *Chinisu* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋