2006-11-09 13:20:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start a daily journal where you talk to him, in written form. Just as if you were together, sharing a box of Cheerios at breakfast. Ask him in his letter about his childhood, what were his dreams, friends, etc. Then tell him in written form your dreams, day's activities, etc.
Send him these ramblings every few days. Even if he doesn't respond, he'll read them and watch as you mature, grow into a woman. Your writing will change, your questions and stories about yourself will change.
I'm sure you've heard about people who save every letter they received from their love. Your father will likely save every letter you write to him. It will be his connection to you and you to him.
I hope he responds in some way too.
2006-11-09 13:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is something that just happened it will probably take some time for you to start feeling better about it. Like many of the other people on here have said there is e-mail, writing letters, maybe you and your Dad can pick a few days during the week to call each other at a specific time so its just the two of you. Your Dad loves you whether he's right next to you or far away, just remember that.
2006-11-09 13:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by rainydayislandgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! First, I would be honest with him; let him know how you feel about him, how much he means to you and how you miss him. We humans tend to think wonderful things about people, but fail to tell them...as if they can read our minds or something.
I lost my dad suddenly last Dec to bronchitis, of all things! I was very blessed to have talked with him that day and had done the above things.....but i can honestly say, there's no magic to 'coping' with him being gone. When i was a kid, letter writing and sending cassette tapes back & forth helped us stay close when he was gone on long trips (he was in the navy).
As far as you coping with the distance, i would discuss ways to keep in better touch. For instance, are phone calls better for him, does he have access to the internet & IMing, and letting him know what's going on in your everyday life.
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-11-09 13:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by kb1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was thirteen, my mom, my sister, and I moved to Utah. I was miserable and missed my dad like crazy. The thing that helped me the most was talking to him everyday just to say hi and then talking to him twice a week for a really long time just to talk to him and tell him about my life. The other thing that was really important to me was making my dad proud. I wanted so badly to make him happy because he couldn't be a part of everything I was doing. The last thing we did a few times was go out and have a "daddy day" and make him a special package with pictures and souveneirs that we sent to him. It was a great way to keep him involved. I think the most important thing is to just talk to him as much as you want/can. E-mail him and continue to keep him involved and continue to be interested in his life too. I hope it gets easier honey!
2006-11-09 13:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad moved 12 hours away from me when I was about 9 years old. It is tough. I'm not sure how far your dad is from you but you will probably be able to visit. When you visit you will have the chance to make new friends and see a new place.
2006-11-09 13:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Illinois now with my mom (I'm 17) & my dad lives in Mississippi. Its really hard at times but I've kinda gotten used to it now. I only see him about 4-5 times a year. I wish I could see him more but I can't. :(
Just try talking to him on the phone more, maybe that will help you out?
2006-11-09 13:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by kyle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to speak to him regularly by phone. Try to plan regular times throughout the year that you will visit with him - certain holidays & specific weekends or vacation times perhaps. If you plan in advance with him it should be easier for you both to commit to spending that time together. Also, you should definitely let him know that you find this separation very difficult & that spending these times together will be very important to you. Pray & ask God to comfort you at this time. I hope & pray that all will work out well for you.
2006-11-09 13:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by ELIZABETH B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lord help me to accept the things I can not change and change the things I can and grow up to know the difference...LIFE
it's hard but try to accept things the war they are and call him, talk to him, email, send pictures, and just remember no matter where he or you are, you still love each other and share something in common...genes
2006-11-09 13:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Betty Boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is hard, I can understand since I lost my father to a severe stroke last year. Just be as close as you can in other ways, via phone, letters etc. Remember your dad loves you and you love him.
2006-11-09 13:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you both have a computer, an internet service provider and a web cam, if possible.
2006-11-09 13:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋