i love her. we are planning to marry someday but i'm thinking i might have trouble marrying her. her whole family is an adventist. they will not accept marriage in thier church if the other is not an adventist. there r some adventist beliefs or theology (whatever) which i really don't believe in. Like oberving sabbath, law of clean and unclean, no jewelries, etc. i really don't like to shift in my religion. what should i do to settle this?
2006-11-09 13:19:14 · 14 answers · asked by dark prince 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I hate to sound old-fashioned, but as the man of the house, you're called to be the "spiritual head" of the family. If you and your future wife have constant arguments about religious matters now, how will you lead the family in a godly manner?
A man and woman become "one flesh" when they marry. This means they should be of one mind, thinking alike. Personal differences are to be expected, but they should both have the same core values and beliefs. When a couple lacks this basic compatibility, the marriage is destined to cause heartache.
SDA's are against all other Christian denominations because we're "Sunday worshippers," which they consider the mark of the beast. In essence, you'd be marrying a woman who truly believes you're satanic. Since she believes you're lost, she'll constantly try to convert you. Is this what you really want?
My advice to you is this: understand that you should NEVER go into any relationship thinking the other person will change. They won't. Find a woman who's like-minded and you'll be happier.
Sorry I couldn't be more encouraging. Peace.
2006-11-09 13:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had combined reviews with Adventists, despite the fact that none of a romantic nature. According to a e-newsletter circulated by means of no less than a few Adventist church buildings, "National Sunday Law", the Catholic Church is the Whore of Babylon and the act of worshipping on Sunday is the Mark of the Beast. Never brain that almost all Christian denominations worship on Sunday, the Catholics take the blame for it. Very few of the Adventists I've met and talked with have truthfully propogated this notion. I believe there may be a few fight fatigue, an expertise of variations, and so forth. Since you do not know a lot approximately your beau's religion, however you're keen on him, I wager he is not deeply worried in it. It could also be higher to border the dialogue in phrases of what you each suppose in natural, what you suppose another way, and the way you are living your religion. Sometimes it is helping relationships to take away labels and get to the beef of the dilemma.
2016-09-01 10:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious problem. And unless something has changed, the Roman Catholic church expects you to marry a Roman Catholic.
I know that some couple have looked at both of their denomination's beliefs and have come together in the Episcopal church. I am not trying to advertise the Anglican Church, but we are considered the "bridge" between the others. In our church there are some basic things that we all believe, but then the rest is up to the individual. You two might check it out.
2006-11-09 13:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but there are a lot of probablities that it won't work out. Your beliefs are different, and you guys are gonig to have problems when rising your children: what religion are they going to be?
Have you guys ever studied the Bible together? Why don't you try to test her religion with the Bible? If Jesus is in the center of your lives, it will work out, but only if He's among you guys; if you make Him the most important Person in your lives. He has the power to unite both of you.
May God guide and bless both of you!
2006-11-09 22:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cachanilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, honestly, this is going to be tough. If you really don't believe, you shouldn't compromise. The little things you're shutting up about now will become huge once you have children and ideas you really don't believe in are foisted on the ones you love the most.
Best wishes. You're in a tough spot.
2006-11-09 13:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant. especially if her whole family is SDA. I was raised SDA
my parents divorced and I left religion all together for years. I started drinking and smoking pot. That went on for years. Later in life I got married and we were invited to go to a church. It was one of these full gospel non denominational places. We liked it and I decided to find out for myself why I beleived what I did and not just accept whatever my parents religion was. The more I looked into SDA the more I found it was just another false teaching of christianity. If the bible was true and to be the final word on what I would beleive then I had better put its truth ahead of what any religion taught me. The biggest thing I found was that the founder of SDA was claimed to be a TRUE prophet of God. She wrote many books for the SDA church as considered inspired by God. So whatever she wrote must pass the test of the bible which states " whatever a prophet of God says must come to pass or he is a false prophet". OK she claims to have seen people living on mars in one of her visions, she claimed wearing a wig would cause brain damage, she claimed many many other things and happenings, she plagerized many of her "visions or truths for the church" from mormon writings which if you compare SDA books to Mormon books you can see many places were copied word for word by Ellen G White. the SDA prophet. Her books that many were written while in a trance, were written a long time after the mormon book was published and which she kept a copy of in her home.
She preached that Catholics were not saved also because they did not keep the saturday sabath and the pope is the antichrist.
If you marry this girl which will not happen in an SDA church will be forever be covered by a black cloud of arguments between your religions. Search the truth for yourself get a copy of "The White Lie" Ellen G Whites own written words condemn her as a false prophet.
good luck.
2006-11-09 13:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by flagnsnarf 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Simple... find a new girlfriend.
Here is what God's Word says...
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2006-11-09 13:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ray G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would seriously pray about marrying someone whom your religions differ so much. If it is important to you that you raise children up in your religion, then it will be tough. Personally I wouldnt raise them Catholic or Seventh Day. They are both unchristian as they dont believe only on the blood of Jesus for the salvation of their souls.They both believe on works to get them to heaven.
2006-11-09 13:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by reneebo1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you're both wrong, but she is more wrong, I say seek a better denomination one founded in the Truth not in tradition.
The Lutheran Church except ELCA and the Orthodox Churches are far closer to the Truth, both of you should attend one.
2006-11-09 13:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Join a Lutheran Church in the Missouri Synod (LCMS). Hopefully they will teach both of you how God has worked out our salvation and given it to us as a gift. A gift we cannot repay.
Thanks be to God for His wonderful gift.
2006-11-09 13:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋