will the hubby (he cheated) ever be sorry for breaking my heart...he knows deep down he did.........or does he lack that emotion.........?.we were together 24 yrs 4 children....he has moved on with a 21 yr old he is 42 and .....im just lost
2006-11-09 13:19:10 · 14 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he didn't feel empathy up until this point, I doubt he ever will. It's best you move on with your life the way he did. Go out witha younger guy...and make sure he finds out. It won't solve anything, but it will make you feel better.
2006-11-09 13:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello ,Hubby might have broke your heart,being sorry I bet he is .When the new wears off of the 21 year old and she gets tired of his old @ss and him having to pay child support and taring care of the children on weekends and when every you can get him to or should I say get them to watch them She will dump him like a rock.He might have broke your heart but the little young fling is going to get him before it is over.I am a 53 year old man went threw the same thing when I was his age Sure was wrong had and still got the best wife in the world.Men go threw this change of life about his age takes a few years for us to get over it most men do this he just went a little to far.I got caught moved away for about 6 months then we talked it out my wife forgave me had not done nothing again first and last for me got the best at home.Well call him up if you still got young children take them to him go do something get up and get out.I know that a lot of people have told you this,TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS and it does help but time is hard and it still hurts, be cool find you something to do get your mind off him have you found a lawyer yet make him pay.This is some come from a man but I had a first wife that was not worth a $hit she put me threw H@LL so I do know a little.Be sweet.
2006-11-09 21:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he will be sorry soon enough!As soon as the woman he is with now shits on him cause im sorry theres not a 21 year old out there that thinks a 42 year old man is something that just have to have.I'm thinking he has money or had a great job that's usually what drives a woman of her age to be with a man of his.So one day hes gonna see this and hes gonna be the most sorry man there ever was he will sweet talk you and know that he should have never left you .All of the sweet things that they think a woman needs to hear.So what you need to do when this day comes is tell him you know your right you never should have left cause you lost out and you will never have this ever again!!Girl get yourself dolled up get back in the game let some men give you the attention you need and deserve get your self esteem back and make him sorry!! Once he sees how hot you are he will be crying in his beer!! Good luck Hun and believe me you are better off without him!!!
2006-11-09 21:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by witchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband you married, had 4 children with, and were loyal to for 24 years has died. The guy who is with the 21 years "chick" is not the guy you married, he just slightly resembles him. You need to be strong for you children. You will bounce back once you trust that he will get what he deserves down the road . And you will understand why this has happened as you let your life unfold. Each day will bring you new hope & joy. That which doesn't kill you, does make you stronger. In time you won't feel so lost because you will realize what a wonderful, strong, beautiful woman you are. And now you get to start over...Forget him.mourn his death and allow good things to come your way.
2006-11-09 21:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gentleman will be very remorseful that he broke your heart.
But a guy who ditches his wife of 24 years for a gal half his age is no gentleman. Therefor, no he won't.
42 is a common age for guys to have a ML crisis. ( Get a sports car/motorcycle... dye hair... date very young women )
Some may advise you to wait patiently and let him know you still care for him by sending cards on holidays and his birthday. You can hope his mind will clear and he will come back with his tail between his legs and hoping you treat him like the prodigal son. But once he realizes the error of his ways, he will be so burdened by shame/guilt he will likely not come crawling.
If he's 42, then you're probably younger. Therefor you're just getting into your prime. There's a ton of guys 40-55 years old who will be proud to have you for a date.
I recommend you cry for a while, get grief counseling from your pastor, and come to terms with the loss. Then swim out into the 21st century dating pool and start having a really wonderful life. The rules have changed dramaticaly since you dated in the late 70's. So be prepared for some culture shock. I don't know if this link will work but check out the answer I gave to a question on what guys consider attractive. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061108175507AAKLJof
If that doesn't work, keep a lookout in my essays and I will soon have a new one posted about dating. You can finde them at
www.geocities.com/scientific_arts_of_monroeville/essays/essays.html
2006-11-09 21:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Trailcook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has moved on , no he will not be sorry he broke your heart, if he was and in love with you still, he would have not left. I'm sorry to be the bearer of those bad words. It will be difficult for you to trust again , but time does heal all, it doesn't seem so now . You need to get out meet new friends , get a new hobby, be involved socially, just to get back in the circle. It will get better
2006-11-09 21:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by mssgtmidnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he will be sorry, is if that young girl that he is currently with right now, will break his heart by leaving him for someone else. Then he will have no choice but to see what you guys have gone through. Im really sorry to hear that, you guys have been together for such a long time, its a shame that he didnt cherish it. In time your wounds will heal thank God for that..
2006-11-09 21:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by NIKFAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still with her, he isnt worried. if he was he wouldnt be there he would be with you.
when you move on with life, become a better person, he will only then see what he lost. but truly lady, he aint worth it. you may have had bliss in the past, but are you sure this is the only time he has strayed?
you sound wonderful, and should continue without him. hes a pig.
it will hurt, but you are free to follow your dreams. chin up, and hugs from me.
2006-11-09 21:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think at this point and time you r not to worry about what he will think or feel you need to pick yourself up and keep walking the only other choice you have is to dwell on it and that gets you no where
2006-11-09 21:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by jrock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eventually u have to let it go. i know it's gonna be hard, but u have to. if u really want ur heart to be mended u need to let him go.
2006-11-09 21:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by rieshafreeman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋