How can i comfort my sister after her lost??

Question

I found out that my sister youngest son was in a motorcycle accident on tuesday; he was killed instantly. he was 32 years old with 2 small children 3 and 6 .
i called my sister this morning; but she was not home. what words can i used to comfort her???

Answer 1

Death is not Good bye just see u later.
In heaven we shall all be together again.
Look to Jesus.

Answer 2

Some friend you are that you can't find some comforting words without digging them out of a 2000 year old book of myths and folklore. You should be ashamed. Your question is just more evidence why religious beliefs are a dead end both morally and intellectually. Your unsupported beliefs about an afterlife and unfounded beliefs in ancient myths means many believers never learn how to properly mourn or to be able to help others with their mourning. Condolences to your step-sister for her loss.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for the loss in your family. As much as you want to comfort her at this time, there are no words that can comfort a mother who lost their child. Whether an adult or small child, no words can help her. All you can do is be there for her... maybe find out what needs to be done and help her. Anything from helping with funeral arrangments to cleaning her house for her. These are everyday things that she won't have to worry about. Reassure her that you love her and offer to assist her in anything that will make this time just a little easier. Sometimes even sitting in silence and just being there is enough. We, as humans, always want to find the words to comfort someone we love... we tend to not like akward silences, but it's ok to be silent and just be what she needs. Just remember, people deal with grief differently. She may deal with it differently than you and noone knows how they deal with a tradgedy until it happens. Be sensitive (as you seem to already be) and be what she needs.
Good luck and I'm sorry to hear about your nephew.

Answer 4

If you live near her, of course you can go see her, but if you live far away, phoning her is the best thing you can do. Tell her how sorry you are about her son. If she wants to talk about him, let her talk about him. Sometimes those who lose loved ones just want someone to listen to them. Let her know you're there.
You don't mentioned a husband, but if she has one, remember he lost a son too and he needs comfort.
The reason I say to let her talk about him is because one of my brothers died at age 17 in an accident. I was only 2 at the time and don't remember him. But I do remember as I grew older, my mother would talk about him, things he did, things he said, etc. One of my sisters-in-law said to me one time: Why does she keep talking about him?" My mother was not obsessively talking about him, but he was her son, her child.
There's no magic words that will take your sister's heartache away, and, unfortunately, after the funeral, everyone goes home and the family is left to grieve. They need people more during that time, in my opinion.
To this day, I wish I knew more about my brother Ben, and some of my siblings will say things about him so I learn new things on occasion.
Just be there as much as you can for your sister. I'm sorry to hear about your nephew.

Answer 5

I dont think anyone could be a comfort to her now after losing a child but you can be there for her and tell her you love her..if you are close by pop over to see her for a coffee and do a load of washing or vaccum or even perhaps make coffee for other ppl that are arriving making their condolonces.Let her talk if she needs to and be a listener

Answer 6

I will tel you what I learned based on my mom's expereinces losing a son:

- don't tell her time will make the pain go away, he's in a better place, etc - that just sounds stupid when you are in the middle.
-don't pretend to understand, or try to rationalize it - there is nothing rational about it
- tell her you love her - and let her cry when she needs to
- don't forget - my mom said that the hardest part was 6 months AFTER the funeral, when everyone else started to forget about it, they stopped calling, stopping in, etc - and the loneliness set in. So, when that times comes - make sure to keep calling

Answer 7

You can tell her that you love her & that you are there for her if she wants to talk or pray or just wants company. Do not tell her what she needs to do or how she should feel at this time. Also, don't tell her that you know how she feels, because you don't. Don't ask her how she is doing because she might be thinking "how the heck do you think I am doing?" Don't try to assume that you know what she needs. She needs time & she just might need a hug & a kind word.

Answer 8

Some times words are not necessary, just be there for her. If you have never lost a child there is no way you can understand what she is going through. Just be there and do what you can but don't crowd her, every one grieves differently and at different times.

Answer 9

That's very sad. There's not much that will help her right now but let her know you're there for her. Offer to help her with details of the funeral if needed. If he was married, the wife probably has to handle it but she will need support too. Offer to help her with household chores or anything else she may be too upset to handle. It won't be easy for her but fortunately she has a caring sister like you.

Answer 10

my heart goes out to your sister and to you in this sad time.

there are no words that can comfort her at a time like this.

all you can do is be there for her, be her shoulder to cry on listen when she wants to talk and just show her that you love her and that you are there for her.

your sister will never get over this tragedy but as time goes on she will earn to deal with it and things will get easier.

Answer 11

i'm not sure that there is anything you can say. just being there for her, actually being there. take care of her and help her through this very hard time. she knows you love her but by stopping everything else in your life to help her will show her how deeply you care for her.