there is a guy at my school that is always hugging me and holding me by my waist.i lke him and i kinda like it when he does that but i didnt know he had a girlfriend and now people call me a whore and a slut.he asked me out before and i said i would think about it.he asked me before he had a gf.now the other girls hate me even more and they want to kick my *** if i dont get away from him.i know that they wont do it and even if they do i can take them.still now i when he puts his arm arouund my waist or my sholder i tell him i need space because people still call me names.i need to know if i should let him hug me or keep telling him to back off. and if you tell me that i should let him what should i tell the girls at school when they tell me what they tell me.
2006-11-09 13:12:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a girlfriend and so you need to put that into perspective. You might like him holding you but how does that look knowing he has someone else? Let him get rid of his girlfriend. Then if he does see if he's still interested in you. If he is then it will be up to the two of you as to what you will call yourselves. As far as the other girls go if theyre calling you a s**t or a sk**k, or some other evil word, then jealousy is about 85% of the problem. The other 15% is that they feel that you are giving yourself up easy because hes is with you all the time. To the these girls you hit them intellectually with facts. If you havent slept with him then let them know that. You cant be a wh**re if you havent done anything with him. The next step is to ignore them. Hard as that may be it works. Its great that you can take these girls on, but dont look to fight them if you dont have to. Especially over some guy. It just aint worth your time. You have a life of your own to deal with. Second and above all else the most important factor. Research this guy some more. What is he doing with you if he has a woman. Maybe he cant get the love, care and attention from her so he seeks it through you. Also you said he asked you out so you know that he likes you. Perhaps then his girlfriend is a front for his true feelings for you. You wont know however until you tell him to clean up his act. If he really likes you he will do what is right, even at the expense of hurting the other girl. Hopefully this can be a stepping stone for you to take action that will give you results. Good luck!
2006-11-09 13:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmmm, If he has a girlfriend why would you want him all over you?? Remember if he does this to his girlfriend he'll probably do the same to you if you became his girlfriend. Women don't think highly of the "other" woman which is probably why you are getting the response from women you are getting. I would suggest you keep your distance from him, just because he's ok disrespecting his girlfriend doesn't mean you should take part in it.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-11-09 21:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they do it with you they will do it to you. This guy doesn't understand commitment. If you want to be the idiot girl hes cheating on and everybody knows it but her, go for it. If you want a little respect, tell him to hit the road.
2006-11-09 21:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by scoutredneckfluffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the other girls to mind their own business but tell him he needs to get rid of his girlfriend before he touches you.
2006-11-09 21:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if i were you id say forget it to the guy i mean is it really worth it to lose all ur friends over a month long relationship? believe me its SOOO not worth it for any guy...and besides if those gurls are callin you names are they really the friends you want? jsut avoid em and eventually they'll stop well good luck gurl and i hope i helped ya
2006-11-09 21:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by *!* BrOoKe *!* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are simply deseprate for attention. Why don't you simply not let him do that and go find a guy who is not with somebody else?
2006-11-09 21:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by malisimo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like him let him. the other girls are just jealous of you cause they all probably want him to and hes not interested in them just you. and just ignore the other girls it pisses them off even more when you ignore there commits. but do what you feel is right.
2006-11-09 21:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Michele G 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he is only your freind do not care what those BITCHES say. Tell them you know what we are jusk freinds so shut the fck up!! If they dont belive it the tell them to ask him.
2006-11-09 21:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you most comfortable with? it sounds to me as though you don't want this fellow to put his paws all over you. you would be wise to just forget about him.
2006-11-09 21:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by rubyred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he wants u to dump the other girl
2006-11-09 21:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by native,pride 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋