I have been in a few relationships and the last three have ended on bad notes. I realized that I needed to search myself as to why I kept attracting the assholes. I gave myself a long timeout and did some soul searching. Honestly I hate dating, but I realize that most of the time you won't find Mr. Right the first time. I'm more wiser about it now, yet more apprehensive because I have a two year old child. Note that I don't bring men around my child. I've met a few men, and one in particular that makes me feel that it's right. He makes me feel so feminie, soft, gentle, and encourages me on any venture that I seek. As well as a successful God fearing man and loves children. I have never felt such a conncetion to any man before. I want to open up to him, but because of all the pain, drama, and deceit that I've experienced before I am sacred to let him in. What should I do??
2006-11-09 13:10:38 · 10 answers · asked by isis_osiris13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Realize that not all men are the ones that you've been with up until now, and realize that you have to find your own happiness inside before you can find happiness with another person. I know it's hard, I've been where you are right now, and I would love to tell you that this is the right one for you, but you just have to let your heart lead, but make sure your mind is wise about where it lets you follow.
2006-11-09 13:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by shuggiegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am dating a guy that feels exactly the same as u do. He says he has never met a woman like me, I am wonderful, beautiful and he has dreamed of having this type of relationship, yet he ends his sentence with he is scared to death because of past hurt and of fear the same thing will happen with us. This is what I told him and maybe it will help u too. I myself have had tragic relationships and I too worked on myself alot and did alot of soul searching, and I now refuse to let my past dictate my future. I am going to open my heart and trust this new person that I have feelings for because they are not my past and they should not pay for the mistakes made by others. They need to be trusted and need to be able to give their love without feeling they have to break through a wall of protection that has been built. Unfortunately we always run the risk of getting hurt, but how will your own love grow and nourish if stuck in fear? Please give this guy u have met a clean slate and welcome his love so u can finally be happy. It's ok to be cautious, but don't shut off your heart or the past people that hurt u still have power and control even though they are no longer in your life. Good luck and I wish u all the happiness u deserve.
2006-11-09 13:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having experienced what you are going through, I understand. I was married for 12 years and got cheated on. Just like you I seemed to attract the wrong kind of man, I thought what is wrong with me! but over the years I have learned there is nothing wrong with me at all. Just that men made me feel bad about myself. Dont worry love usually finds you, just when you least expect it. So maybe if you give him a chance it might not be so bad as you thought. He seems a decent enough guy.So good luck and god bless.
2006-11-09 13:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by pinky.p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get men out of your mind. See what you can do to be an interesting, independent woman. There are so many things you can do to improve yourself, (not just physical) Become an exemplary person yourself and the right love will find you. As long as you are focused on it. Love will remain illusive.
2006-11-09 13:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to open up. Otherwise things won't work right. It would screw up the whole dynamic.
2006-11-09 13:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been it that situation so I cant give you good advice
2006-11-09 13:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think u should go to therapy!
2006-11-09 13:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dancer24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess just let ur heart go numb
2006-11-09 13:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him and open ur heart to new love and opportunities...
2006-11-09 13:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it
2006-11-09 13:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋