I have been talking to my love for 16 months and we do love eachother. However lately i feel like things are not the same. we have never meet(we talk on the computer) yet but we plan on meeting each other. My problem lately is I feel he is not listening to me. I will talk to him about certain issues and he will do the same thing over and over again . for example i will call him and he wont answer the phone all day , then the next day he will say im sorry ive been tired .. He will also act like hes tired and ready to go to sleep but when i log on the computer he will be on playing games on pogo. IM confussed and i dont know whats up. I know that he loves me but i always feel like there is something he is not telling me i feel it everytime i talk to him. I send him and his daughter nice gifts and when he sends me something is used or from a yard sale
2006-11-09 13:06:24 · 20 answers · asked by dmarshall909 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no problem. you try other one
2006-11-09 13:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is hard. How often do you two talk ( counting all forms of communication). If it is multiple times per day everyday then, that could be a reason. If so maybe you to need to cut back talking to each other so much. The gift thing, does he have a job, or is he having a hard time making ends meet. Maybe he doesn't have the money to send you nice things, but still tries to make an effort to send something, or maybe he just does care about that part. Really can't say.
2006-11-09 13:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by ill_state00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I don't believe in is internet dating. I know it has worked for some people, but it just doesn't seem all that natural or right to me.
I would assume he is just using you for his own pleasure or something like that. He probably has found some other online woman to talk with.
As for the gifts, you need to consider that everyone has a different price range. Just because he sends you something that looks like it came from a yard sale or discount store, doesn't mean he doesn't care. A person could buy another person a really expensive diamond, and they may do it just to please them and not care much about it. But the other person could buy the person who bought them the diamond, something cheaper, like ... a lamp for example. But the difference is, that person may really go all out to find that lamp that they think the person would like.
I wouldn't worry about the gift giving thing, it's the him ignoring you, and playing games online when he says he went to bed things. He obviously has lost interest, and is possibly trying to "get rid" of you. He has a daughter ... does that mean he's married? I would assume he isn't, but you haven't personally met him or been with him, so how would you know?
If you really want to make it work, I suggest arranging a meeting with him, that works for both of you, not just him (like you flying out to see him or something ... he may never show up). If he doesn't want to meet, I would forget about him and move on to a guy who actually cares. It's hard to tell with online relationships, because you just never know for sure if that person is who they say they are. Meet him if you can, but do it in public area (like a Starbucks) because you never know what his intentions may be.
- Hope this helps :-) and good luck!
2006-11-09 13:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica - AKA - Carolina Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yipes! Hold on girl! One may be he's totally into his daughter and not able to concentrate on your or this guy doesn't want a real face to face relationship. Then of course there might be no daughter at all.......but lets not even go there.
If a guy ignores you because he's on the computer playing games or he's tired, it would only be worse in real life! He's not wooing you, he's entertaining himself. You are a different version of Pong.
He's also a cheap *******, sending cheap gifts or trash which is what he considers this relationship.
I'd only want a guy who hangs on my every word, verbal or typewritten and who puts me high on his list, I'm not garage sale trash.
2006-11-09 13:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been talking by computer to a guy you've never met and sending him gifts. How do you know who or where he really is? I mean, he could be married or in prison. You only know what he's told you. Stop the gifts and find a man closer to home. You cannot really love someone you've never met!
2006-11-09 13:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if he's becoming bored i just dont understand how the two of you can be committed to each other and yet say you's are in love that's crazy but to each his own and another thing WHY would you want a man who already has a child from some body else that is nothing but trouble trust me i know. i say cut all the ******** and move on find a man who can give you his all and all p.s. GOOD LUCK b cause you my darling are gona need it
2006-11-09 13:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how do you know he loves you? I can see that you love him, but if he's doing the things you've said, then something is definitely up.
I'd ask him straight out what's going on. Be honest but not judgmental and listen to what he's saying. Sometimes silence speaks volumes.
Good luck.
Oh, and after 16 months, he should want to meet you!
2006-11-09 13:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by ~CountryGirl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore your feelings. something inside you is trying to tell that you need to keep an open mind and heart at the possibility that this person may not be feeling what you think you want him to feel for you. You need to communicate with and let him know what is going on. If he gives you, what you feel are, excuse then maybe it's time to move on. It will hurt, but you have to think about yourself.
2006-11-09 13:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of different men out there and it seems like he is taking you for granted as well as not showing you appreciation. Look around and explore your options you owe it to yourself. If you are going to be in a serious relationship you have to meet face to face.
2006-11-09 13:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by bhurley79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is so strange. He has some simple life with responsibility's. Single man become more locket in own world. He feels comfortable, safe and has time for whatever he wants - no questions.
2006-11-09 13:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't possibly love somebody you have never met. You just love having someone to talk to. It definately sounds like he is hiding something. He sounds like a loser. Quit wasting your time with a fantasy, and move on...
2006-11-09 13:09:31 · answer #11 · answered by cici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋