my substitue for love, school, and everything?

Question

ok,i am 22 and i am a pretty happy person. i am a deremined person who gets everything done. lately since i went away from home-went to a jr college first and git my associates- i have not been taking care of myself, make one too many promises i cannot keep. i talk on the phone a lot, and my parents think that is what my whole life is about. i told my sister that i got a 54 on a history test even after hours of reading the notes, studying them, having a study group,etc my grade did not improve from my first test grade, i do good on quizzes and worksheets and debates but i bombed 2 tests! on the top of that i have my parents taking my phone away from me, and they expect me to b ein my dorm all the time so that they can check up on me, my sis told my parents about my grade in history before i could and now they think that i lied to them which i have not. they start comparing me to their siblings: mom to her brother and my dad to his brother and how they did not finish a university, etc.

so now my parents told me that if i do not pass the classes they will stop paying for school-which adds on a lot more pressure-how i will never do anything with my life and so forth. on the top of that i have a relationship,a bf who is going through some hard stuff of his own and to whom i cannot complain or even tell what the heck is wrong with me.on th etop of that i told my mom that i neede to talk with 2 history and i spanish teacher-to get some notes and in one class to make up a test but my mom said she knew that i was flunking those classes. i got so mad that this weekend i promised my almost 11 year old brother that i would be there to see him swim on Sat and Sunday which is what i love to do except that being mad at my parents i do not want to go home which makes me the bad guy and miss my brother's swim meet.i am only 22 and studying even if i am on the phone,doing school work and i am about to have a seizure at any second since i am not eating okay, maybe 2 meals daily.help

and when you have your brother call you on the cell and ask you if you will come home that is too much! i feel like i hav elet my brother down by not beeing there! just hearing the words "will you come home tomorrow?" made me cry while i was on the cell with my almost 11 year old brother! i want peace and nothing else, but how do i prove to my parents that the cell is not affecting my history grade? i mean it has not affected any of my other classes and i am making B's in them and this class they dont understand that the teacher does not cut you any slack or give you a curve or any bonus pts oppotunesties unlike my other teachers, even my teacher who teacher HIS part 2 and which is easier then the one that i am making a 54 on test-HIS part 1! tomorrow i have a quiz and a test to make up. do you think that those grades can make my parents look at me differently?

Answer 1

First, you need to calm down. You cannot change the past - only learn from your mistakes (your failed grades). Second, I would say maybe put the boyfriend thing on hold. That can be a huge distraction. What use is he if you cannot even share your problems with him? He is probably sucking a lot of energy & emotion out of you & you don't need that. You are too young. Try to stay focuse on your goals - to continue getting good grades & yes, to make your parents proud. They are paying for your education and that is no small responsibility. Don't stay away from home - you need to be around your family. You need to make peace with them & get over the bad feelings before they grow and get worse. Don't punish your little brother because you don't want to deal with your parents. That is silly. Not going to his swim meet is a choice that you have made (b/c ur mad at your parents??) so don't blame your parents for that! Go home, tell them you are sorry for letting them down. Ask for an opportunity to explain the situation & ask them to forgive you. Tell them you feel overwhelmed & that you will continue to work hard. That is all parents want to hear - you taking responsibility, not making excuses & not placing blame.

When you feel so overwhelmed & don't know where to turn - pray and ask God for help & for direction. He answers prayers.

Answer 2

k regularly you will have to learn the publication 'he is simply now not that into you" it explains the whole lot like this! if a man likes you he's going to wish to ensure you're best deliberating him, you're joyful and he's going to be hanging you first. on the factor in which he couldnt come to a decision among u and this different lady u will have to have left him for well on account that as in case you wish to be with a man who is not definite whether or not he likes you larger than any individual else. do not you wish any individual who places you first at all times and values you and makes you believe distinctive. you must get a divorce with him on account that this man doesnt significance u and doesnt look to wish to make you joyful. and do not allow him speak you out of it. this hurting isnt going to finish in case you placed ur head within the sand believe me ive been on this obstacle and that i want identification ended it plenty faster. so give an explanation for to him precisely why your breaking apart with him, all of the belongings you simply wrote there, then do it and stick by way of it. quality of success! there may be any individual available in the market ready to ravish you, he cannot get the threat if you are nonetheless caught with this dropkick! :)

Answer 3

wow. Don't give up on yourself. I think that your just a little bit overwelmed, being away from home. Maybe your need to slow down a bit and figure out what you want to do. Focus on one thing. Take less classes next semester. You will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't finsh school. It may take you longer, but don't give up.