I am really depressed since my best friend passed away so sunnendly it will be about almost a month, I feel I?

Question

cant go on please tell me how I can get through this this is soo awful, PLease someone help me??

Answer 1

Your are not alone. People who loose someone who they are very close to feel like they have lost part of themselves with the person who dies.

We must understand that death its a part of life its hard and sometimes its not fair. We think that its our fault because we think we did something wrong, but we didn't. We show our love by honor those that had died.

But if you take in a different. We celebrate there life and how they lived it we keep the memory in our hearts and honor those who have died that we love.

My father died 3 years ago this past november. he died in my youngest sisters arms. I know in some odd way that comforted me because he did not die alone and died in the face of love.

In many cultures. The mourn the when a child is born because of all the trials and paths that they find. When they die they celebrate the life they lead and joyous on the occasion so the person knows they are loved.

Many people put candels on an alter. On the day my dad died. I don't care if its snowing or its 20 below zero. I still go the ocean with rose petals to help him guide him on his journey to his next ascension.

Next halloween what is called Samhaim pronounced sow-in is called the festival of the dead this in when the honor those who have died before us. It helps to ease the pain somewhat.

I had to go see a psychologist I just couldnt' take it anymore. I didn't know which way i was going on turning she helped me get my head back on straight. There are groups within your community that can help too. With death and greviouses.

There is one thing I did do even though it can never be delivered but I believe my father did hear it. I wrote a letter to him know why i was so mad that he left me alone and why I was depressed and what things made me happy.

I hope I helped. If not i'm sorry. Losing someone is the hardesting this in life we have to learn to cope with.

Answer 2

So sorry to hear about your loss. Feelings of grief are normal after such a loss but sometimes they hang on tighter if you aren't able to work through your grief with the help of others. If your community has any grief groups that would be great. Some churches run them and so do some mental health facilities and so do some hospitals. I don't know how your friend died, but sometimes there are groups specific to the nature of how your friend passed. A call to a crisis intervention hotline may help with referrals for where to locate some groups like this if you have been unable to find any. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like it feels like the end of the world to you but this huge despair will lessen with time and support groups can really be invaluable.

Answer 3

As you can see sweetie, there are lots of wonderful people---even strangers that want to help you.

Talk to someone in person when you can and get out and meet people. A best friend is not replaceable, but new friends and new directions can ease your pain over time.

I think you have to accept that this is pain right now and try to deal with it as best you can. I really hope your life moves you into some wonderful new directions where memories of your friend are happy and new people fill your life with joy.

Take care honey.

Answer 4

You should really really talk to your school counselor (and your family and friends too). Your counselor will be able to help you cope through this so you won't have a hard time during school. When ever you start to feel down, talk to someone, anyone your around at the moment. If your not around someone, call anyone. They'll listen. Take care :)

Answer 5

I am 21 and I have had a close friends to die before one of them including my Daddy. You just have to take one day at a time. DO NOT bottle your feelings in, it only makes it worse. There for awhile I got really angry wondering why my Daddy had to die such a horrible death. But of all the bad things he went through, now he is up in heaven looking down at me at all times. So is your friend. So just stay strong and keep God in your life and never take anyone or anything for granted. God bless and I know he will give you the strength to go through each day.

Answer 6

I'm sorry about your loss. I can relate to the depressed feeling you are experiencing. I lost my Dad a month ago. I have found that by being with close friends and family helps and by talking to those people helps that much more. I have also found that by keeping busy helps me to get my mind off of it. It doesn't mean I don't think about my Dad all of the time and miss him very much it just means I don't think about the death as much. My thoughts are with you. Give yourself time to grieve and be prepared to have good days as well as bad. Don't give up though.

Answer 7

this touches home for me.. i am so srry about your loss how did she/he die? in 04 i lost my best friend also she was 35 and had a heart attack we had luch at 2 and by 4 she was dead so i know all about sudden.... it has only been a month so i know that probably every min of the day you are thinking of her... i finnally had to ask God to please not let me think about her all the time and to help me get through this... and in time it is better there are now days that i dont think of her and still times when i miss her so badly i cant stand it... it takes time and that is all i can tell you ... try talking to someone about it a friend or a counsler that will help you too.... my heart goes out to you

Answer 8

there are stages of grief you must go through to get to the other end.
i think your Friend would roll over in his/her grave if they knew you were not going on.
don't you think they'd want you to smell a rose and drink in the sky and feel the breeze for them.
plant a tree in their honor, make sure the short life counted. start a memorial or get involved in the disease or situation support group that took them too young.

also get this book at the library and look at this site. fo understanding what steps you must go through and for support info.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross : On Death And Dying
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' ground-breaking book on the stages of death and dying. Site includes links to net resources for grief, bereavement, hospice care, ...
www.growthhouse.org/books/kubler1.htm - 9k

time does heal and the more you reach out for support AND turn it into what positive you can the better you can deal with it.
I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

Answer 9

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.Its going to hurt for a long time;I lost my MOM in august and I'm still having a hard time with it.and lost a friend last summer .a ;Aunt in January,lord it does hurt but hon .what can we do ;I PRAY A lot and just try and keep myself and my mine busy with other things, and tell myself I'll see them again someday.also I SEE A COUNSELOR and take med. for depression; that helps a lot too. try and see about some counseling.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry
try to think of all the positive things that the two of you encountered. If that doesn't help then try finding someone to talk to. maybe a consleur or someone that understands you and that you can talk to in confidently Good luck!