My bf cheated on me with his ex a while ago, and i nvr got over it... then i heard she's gonna be in town soon so i emailed her to ask whether i could meet her just to give the whole thing a closure, and she firmly refused. i really need to see her to move on with my life... and i happen to know some serious embarrassing stuff abt her and my bf in the past... should i blackmail her into seeing me? i dont mean to hurt her but then i'm quite desperate... help needed here...
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if i shouldnt blackmail my ex (which wont be very fun if it steps into the legal issues), what can i do to persuade her to meet me? i asked, i explained, i begged... and she just wouldn't agree to it, and i really need to see her.
2006-11-09 12:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by damn_da_ds 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to meet her. Evidently you have forgiven your boyfriend because you are still with him. Regardless if you meet her or not what's done is done and you can't change that. Just let it go. You will cross paths with her one day when you least expect it but until then don't lose any sleep over it. Focus on you relationship so you don't have to deal with him cheating again.
2006-11-09 13:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by H Town Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never blackmail anyone. Or beg. Do NOT meet her. This won't bring you closure, it will hurt you more. Or it may make you look immature and desperate! Maintain your dignity. Stay away from her and keep your pride. Are you still with the bf? Can you now trust him? If not, dump him, too, and move on. Do not obess over this woman or this problem It isn't worth it. This woman wasn't the cause of the bf cheating. He cheated because he wasn't faithful to you. Blame him, not her. But move on.
2006-11-09 13:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force the issue.
Why do you need to meet her anyways? Why so desperately?
There are plenty of other ways to seek the closure without meeting her.
If you were her, would you meet you? I mean, she did your man, what if you wanted to kick her *** or something? Your constant invitations may have that ring to it although that's not what you meant for it to do.
Why don't you write her something heartfelt, write and rewrite, and finally just send it to her. Send that ugly spot in your heart with it. If you get a reply, then there may be the closure you seek. If not, at least you spoke ur mind.
Don't blackmail. It's silly, childish, not to mention illegal in some cases. Just from this sentence, if I were her, I wouldn't come meet you. It's scary what ur thinking...
2006-11-09 13:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - get a life - -if you spent as much time looking to the future as you do worrying about the past your life would be easier to live and you would much happier. You don't need closure you want vengeance.. or vindication... why? you feel cheated.. so MOVE ON to a better place...you will be glad you did...
2006-11-09 13:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wont meet you because she expects to be buried in a shallow grave. sounds like a set up to me. just dump your useless BF and move on, he will shag her again, because you forgave him before, you will again.
if you meet her, you will turn into the revenge seeker when she refuses to stay away, so you will hurt her and that is the truth to it. you secretly wish to strangle her, so you should avoid her.
I say dump him, before he pumps her!
2006-11-09 13:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't see you, get over it. She's just not ready for it. Blackmail is a bad idea.
2006-11-09 13:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sweatin' this girl? You are making think she still has control over the whole situation. Seriously get over what they did!
2006-11-09 13:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by ms_kiki00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats when you try to convince your boyfriend to get involved. Try to get him to call her and have her meet "him" somewhere and have it really be you. I`ve done it and it`ll work, you just have to get your boyfriend to agree to it.
2006-11-09 13:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ Brittany ~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it crazy stalker girl
2006-11-09 13:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by steven d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BUILD A BRIDGE AND GET OVER IT.
2006-11-09 13:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋