A lack of respect on both parts concerning each other's feelings during arguements(name calling,saying things that are not meant but can not be taken back,etc.).If your slowly trying to make things better and there has been a significant difference with the both of you when it comes to the communication part but not enough and you feel there's hope,what can you do to make things better?And is it even possible?Has anyone been in a relationship like this and did it ever get any better?
2006-11-09 12:35:32 · 22 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am in the process of getting out of a relationship just like that...i move dec 1st.....and after reading all of that and being able to relate i wonder do u want to rebulid?? do u want to get bk with that person? and if u do what makes u want 2....I know what it is its love....ur mind is telling u to go and never look back...but ur heart is telling u to try again...i have that battle everyday..but i think that u should take some time and space for both of u...ur not gonna stop loving him overnite and vice versa...but time and space will tell..believe me and if its meant to be it will be...thats the best i can tell u...bcause after all that u guys have been through the arguments..name calling..lack of trust..talking bad about each other u probably dont like each other rite now and theres alot of hurt btween the both of u..the only way to get over it is to get away from each other..theres always hope...i live with hope everyday....good luck
2006-11-09 12:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to begin with the answer all depends on how big the trust issues were.. If there was cheating involved then it is another story. As far as the the communication problems / fighting and arguements of course they can be fixed. The way I see it is as long as both people in a relationship actually want to be with each other and are willing to put in some effort It can always work. I think your partner should be the most important person in your life, the hard part is trusting and deciding who this person is.
2006-11-09 13:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by ragin360 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the most important part of a relation ship are communication, trust, and honesty, if you don't have that there is not a good chance that you will make it. In order to get those things, both people in the relationship must put there differences aside and talk it out. I'm sure if you both want the same things and you work on it, a relationship might be possible.
2006-11-09 12:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by ElieZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When U start 2 hurt who U love U loose RESPECT, TRUST & LOVE.
How do U feel RESTPECTed when Ur being put down by name calling? - U don't!
Y would U TRUST the person hurting U? - U can't!
U'll forget Y U LOVEd him/her bcause all U'll think about is the pain.
Sometimes moving on can b the best 4 both, U may not have been meant for a relationship together bcause it'll probably never stop.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 12:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥less 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First are you married, do you have children and is there any reason other than your lack of self confidence that is making you stay in this kind of relationship.
My parents totally respect each other; that's not saying they don't fight and all but I never hear them call each other names or swear at each other when they argue. Mostly because they have too much respect for themselves to be drawn into such childish behaviour.
My parents disagree about issues but they love and respect each other too much to deliberately try and hurt each others feelings.
Your life your choice.
You might need to rethink what you expect out of life. If your expectations are low then you might be able to tolerate such a sh**ty life.
2006-11-09 12:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by scottleigh89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation as you right now. Trust is the basis of a relationship, without it.....the relationship won't last. Talk things out, and figure out what each of you want and whats best for the both of you. Saying mean things, name calling in my case were just to let some steam off my chest.....but I didn't mean a word( Same with her). Best of luck to you guys =]
2006-11-09 12:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Elusive ()Ne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it takes two to tango. But the point is: Are you going to be happy after all that happened? Are you still happy? Even though there's hope, do you still love him/her? Love without trust won't last.
I've been there. He wanted a fresh start. But if he gets mad, he would just insult me. And I can't take that. He slapped me once, he might do that again. I don't want that ugly scenario again.
But if you really love your man, well, go ahead. Maybe things will work out for you. Maybe things are different from me too.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 12:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by Emz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna give a flip answer, but so much of the Q depends on how fragile trust can be and how difficult it can be to rebuild. Kinda like the old kid poem about Humpty Dumpty. Dallas
2016-05-22 01:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am there right now its sucks right now we decided to be friends because we fight to much... i wish we didnt but he would always bring stuff from my past up an he cant get over somethings then he says mean things to me witch hurts me but i no how u feel maybe u need a lil time apart jus be friends for a while an c if that helps keep talkin but not as much thats what i am doin its hard cuz when i c him i wanna kiss him but i no i cant right now so hopefully it will help in the long run but honesly i am alot less stressed just being his friend
2006-11-09 12:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by my heart belongs to a sailor! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer 2 this one the relationship isn't heathy, if you are being mean spirit toward each other and saying and calling name it's called abusive, it's a done deal cut your losses and move on before it gets any uglier, feeling are all we have don't stay in the madness, it's crazy.
2006-11-09 12:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by silkieladyinthecity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋