My bf cheated on me with his ex a while ago, and i nvr got over it... then i heard she's gonna be in town soon so i emailed her to ask whether i could meet her just to give the whole thing a closure, and she firmly refused. i really need to see her to move on with my life... and i happen to know some serious embarrassing stuff abt her and my bf in the past... should i blackmail her into seeing me? i dont mean to hurt her but then i'm quite desperate... help needed here...
2006-11-09 12:28:57 · 17 answers · asked by damn_da_ds 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i shouldnt blackmail my ex (which wont be very fun if it steps into the legal issues), what can i do to persuade her to meet me? i asked, i explained, i begged... and she just wouldn't agree to it, and i really need to see her. please help?
2006-11-09 12:56:15 · update #1
I personally don't like the idea of blackmail. I also don't think that you need to see her for closure. If it's in the past, then leave it in the past. You accepted him after it was done, so you should learn to live with it and leave it alone.
If you can't, then leave him and move on with your life. If you need to find out info about what happened, then talk to her on the phone. Remember that she may also be embarrassed about the situation as well and may not want to confront you. If you force her hand, you may not like the results. I know this is not what you want to hear, but if it was you in her situation, how would you feel?
2006-11-09 12:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by imahlah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blackmailing won't give you closure, it will just make you look immature. You can only move on by working it through with your boyfriend (if he's still your boyfriend). Blaming her isn't the answer. The source of the problem is broken trust with HIM, not her.
2006-11-09 12:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you will just be showing him how much he hurt you and you need to be showing him how much you dont need him because he is a dog just leave him alone and move on you will find someone else who will treat you much better just give it a little time
2006-11-09 12:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to see her to get closure, leave her alone, what goes around comes around, and you will get paid back in the future for trying to have your way now.
2006-11-09 12:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by georganne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say you have some airborne dirt and dirt on him to according to risk stress him to delete the photos or get somebody to take his telephone with out him noticing delete them then provide him it returned? Or threaten tell the police and he would be arrested and the photos destroyed? sorry no longer lots help:( good success nonetheless. answer my final question?
2016-10-03 11:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. why do you need to see HER to find closure to your past? Do what you gotta though. Sounds like a weird situation really. GET OVER HIM! Get help if need be.
2006-11-09 12:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be really immature to want to do something this childish...are you sure you're OLD enough to acutally have a boyfriend? You sound like you're in the 5th grade or something. Grow up.
2006-11-09 12:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is it really her your mad at? so she is gonna be intown.
You b/f could stopped anything before he cheated on you but he made a desision to go on with it, yes it maybe her fault that she stared something but in the end he finished it. So i don't think your frustation is with her
2006-11-09 12:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talked to a lawyer friend of mine about a very similar situation years ago, and he called it . . . ah, hell, I can't remember the legal term, but you'd know it if you heard it, and it's clearly illegal, so forget it. God Bless you.
2006-11-09 12:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that is the solution
He is the only one to blame, I hope you dump him at the time
2006-11-09 12:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋