theres this guy...i dont want to go into too much detail. Im in love with him...were not together anymore but for some reason we keep going back and forth from what we want. The thing is its just hurting me too much lately. I need to end it. I know what i want to do and what I want to say, but i dont have the courage to say it. I dont have the guts either...but i need to do just end it. Because I know its for the best...
2006-11-09 12:15:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can do it. it's like a Band-aid, just rip it off, not little by little.
2006-11-09 12:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blonde Bombshell. Singer/dancer/actress of 40's, 50's Betty Hutton was known as the Blonde Bombshell - she belted songs and wow'd audiences and was one of a kind. But, I digress.
When it's good, it's good. When it's bad it's bad. Problem is, the bad never stays away for long. The thing that got you two together was the excitement factor, and the hope that it will ressurect itself lingers. You said it: "It's hurting me too much lately. I need to end it." You are afraid that if you "end" it, you may miss something "good" in the future with this guy. Is a little bit of good now and then worth the pain and suffering? Of course not. He knows you are gutless and that is why he keeps bouncing back because apparently he hasn't gotten the whole package - and good for you! Get some self respect going here, my dear, and in a few well chosen words tell him why, logically, it is over. Then walk away and look forward to a much more satisfying life. It's like a drug addict facing rehab. They want just "one more night" of boozing/drugging. One more is too much. One more is not enough. It is endless. Ending it is doing you both a favor.
2006-11-09 20:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that we find it so incredibly hard to the things that will make us the most happiest in the long run. Ending a relationship isn't easy for most. However, the longer we wait to do the right thing, the harder it will become. The one thing that I have found most helpful when I have been the one ending the relationship, is to tell myself, would I want someone to stay with me because they felt sorry for me and didn't want to hurt my feelings? Absolutely not! And I'm sure your partner feels the same way. The anxiety of knowing what needs to be done is the worst part of it all. After you have sat down and talked about your feelings, you will be amazed to see just how much weight has been lifted off from your shoulders. You must be honest with your partner about your feelings. You can't make the heart love someone. There really is no good advice on how to tell you what to say or do. Just remember, don't fall in love with someone you can live with, fall in love with someone you cannot live without....I wish you the best in your journey for happiness. Everyone deserves to be loved.
2006-11-09 20:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like this for a long time.. way too long.. we always broke up but still hung out, and acted as though we were together. he treated me horribly, but I was in love.. or so I thought.. eventually I had had enough. Something he did just set me off, and it wasnt even the worst thing he had done to me. But soon after I met someone else, and by that point, my ex wanted me back, and I was confused.. but I did not take him back, the new guy was so much better to me, without having to lose me to realize it.. my ex begged and promised me everything i had ever wanted from him and still a year and a half later, he still apologizes and wants to be with me, but I have moved on, realizing that it was not real love, it was not both of us in love together, it was more of a comfort and attachment to each other. of course he still doesnt see that.. but if i had not ended it and stayed strong, I would be in the same situation i was in for many many years.. I am so happy with my decision.. i never thought i would be able to get over him. Nobody thought I ever would.. but I did and now I am in a great relationship, not the guy i met right after we broke up the final time, but the guy I met after him. Right now my brothers gf is going through the same thing I was.. i told her"somewhere theres someone who dreams of your smile and thinks in your presence that life is worthwhile, whenever youre lonely remember its true, somebody somewhere is thinking of you" this means that the person you are Meant to be with is thinking of the girl he is Meant to be with.. you may not meet for a while, but when you meet him, you will see, and you will be so happy that you got rid of a guy who didnt treat you properly and found someone who truly appreciates you for you. Good luck, i know it is hard.. stay strong and go out with your friends often, read, or write to get your feelings out.
2006-11-09 21:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of going out trying to find someone to like you, why don't you go out and find out how great you really are. Find a hobby, something you enjoy to take your mind off the guy. If you become more independent, he will determine what he wants and you'll be having a great time in the process. Also, you will decide what you want, either being with him having fun or just being alone for awhile minus a companion. When you are not looking for love, that is when it finds you. Good luck!
2006-11-09 20:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by mcprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been going back and fourth? Do you want to marry this guy or have you finally realized you are worth more as a person than what he is offering? Let me know, I think I can help you. Nice name by the way, that's original.
2006-11-09 20:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mother always told if you really love someone you should learn to let them go is going to hurt but that chapter of that book was closed a long time ago let him go and open a new chapter of your life
2006-11-09 20:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by foxy_sexy_lesbian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him when yall are talking about something stupid, just bring it up.tell him hes hurting you by doing this on again off again thing and that yall need to go youre separate ways for good. if he thinks so also, hell agree and respect your wishes. if he doesnt understand, just try to stay away from him, it might hurt, but its for the best
2006-11-09 20:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something good out there for you but you'll never have it if you keep going backwards.
Good things only happen when you go forward.
2006-11-09 20:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your having that hard of time...than maybe you should just write him a letter....ppl communicate differently some of us may be better at putting our words on paper than it coming from our mouth, so maybe for you it would be best to tell him how you feel through a letter....good luck!
2006-11-09 20:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋