PLEASE, Please, Please HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I might not have been the best son this month, and especially this week. I was up late playing on the computer and I didn't get all of my homework done. I stayed in bed late in the mornings and came late for school twice. And I was pretty mean too. I know I was bad, but I admitted it, and I appologized. But today I found out that my parents are going to bring me to our Temple, and we are going to sit down with the Rabbi and talk about me, and how to correct this. They said they might put me on medications and also send me to a phsyciatrist. I really, really don't want them to that, but especially the Rabbi because she likes me, and thinks I'm a nice kid, but after this she won't think I'm nice, and I'll be so embarassed. What should I do? Serious answers only please! Thank You So Much!

By the way, I'm a 13 year old boy. Thanks!

Is there anything I can do to get them to not take me? Thanks!

Answer 1

The fact is that you know you did some things that you shouldn't have. Part of growing up and being an adult is accepting the consequences for your actions.

When you see the Rabbi, admit your fault right away and don't make up some lame excuses for your bad behavior.

Like I always tell my kids, when you do something wrong, own it. People will respect you for it.

Answer 2

Your Rabbi will not dislike you because you are 13 and may need some support from family and your religious community. That is what parents and Rabbi's are there for, to help people grow into happy, healthy, productive adults. Sometimes parents and their support mechanism know what best. At this point, you are only TALKING to the Rabbi and TALKING to the psychiatrist, nothing wrong or sinister with talking. Drugs are usually the last resort. If you don't want drug therapy, be sure to let your thoughts known, in a productive and constructive way. Most therapists will try out non-drug approaches first. If you really don't want to go down this route, you need to do what ever it is that needs to be done to show your parents and your other support folks that you are OK and capable and focused and moving/progressing ahead in your life. It sounds like you are panicking, but don't panic yet - let some of this take its course and go from there.

Answer 3

When did they say they were taking you to the Rabbi? If it isn'y going to be for a few days or longer, then if I were you, I would be on my UTMOST best behavior!!!!!! You need to talk to them and tell them that you will change and then you NEED TO DO IT!!!! nOT JUST UNTIL THIS THREAT IS OVER...BUT FROM NOW ON!!!
There is probably no way that they are going to back out of taking you, but if you do go, you need to tell The Rabbi that you will change also and again....DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have crossed a boundary that you shouldn't have...now you are going to have to suffer the consequences, but you may be able to by with a severe grounding or priveliges being taken away instead of medication and a Psychiatrist....although I don't see where they are coming from on those two suggestions.
Good Luck!! And straighten your act up!!!! Next time it might be Military School or Junior Boot Camp.

Answer 4

Your Rabbi has dealt with this situation with families before, and will not think you are a bad person. It sounds like you have a lot of anger though, maybe talking to your Rabbi or a psychiatrist would help.

Answer 5

You need to sit down and talk to your parents. Tell them what's bothering you. Ask them to give you another chance. Tell them that you promise you will straighten up. Also you need to listen to them and there concerns. If you do see the Rabbi she isn't going to think your bad. Everyone has problems. Just try hard to do what is right. You could be doing a lot worse.

Answer 6

That's crazy man im in like the same position right now, except im a Christian. But that don't matter, ya Rabbi won't not like you man, that ain't what religous leaders are for. Sounds like you gotta really think bout what's goin' on, and next time ya sit at your computer when you got homework, think about if you wanna be flippin' burgers the resta ya life. man, and go to your religion for support and comfort cuz that's what it's for. Good luck, man.

Answer 7

When you were bar mitzvahed you assumed the role of a man in regards to the Jewish faith. Your parents are now treating in that manner. Don't sidestep the issues with the Rabbi or your parents. You need correction, yes. Do you need medication or a psychiatrist? I don't know. You need to step up to the plate and set things right (hopefully you've already started) and prove to your parents that change is occurring. They are going to have to see different to believe different.

You can do this. If you can learn to read Hebrew, you can do this.

Answer 8

Hi buddy, you sound like a good kid. Parents are always doing with sort of s**t and it's because they want the best for your future.

You sound like a cleaver kid, you express yourself clearly, so why don't you tell you parents how humiliated you will be if they follow through with their threat.

Ask them to give you another chance and make a deal with them in writing that if you continue to screw up you give them permission to take you to visit your Rabbi, doctor and shrink.

That way they will see you are mature enough to reason with and you will be responsible for your own actions.

I hope this helped.

Answer 9

Don't worry about the Rabbi not liking you. I sure they are just going to sit talk together with you.

Answer 10

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