ok well my boyfriend sent me this thing on Myspace with the subject would u____me and one of the choses was f*ck he said all of the above which meant that one too. i asked him about it and he said that he would only if i wanted to....
then i asked my friend about it and she was like u dont need to be with him if he's gonna be sayin stuff like that but i really like him and i dont think he would do nething that i didnt want to plus i'm only 14 so i dont know
just help me or at least tell me if u think i'm overreacting about it.
thanks
2006-11-09 11:50:38 · 25 answers · asked by Nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're 14. Don't let your bf pressure you into having sex. You're still young and should be doing things with your friends like hanging out at the mall, talking on the phone, playing sports and experimenting with makeup and clothes. Boys' bodies at your age are full of raging hormones. Unfortunately, most of the time all they want is sex. Being a virgin is something a lot of girls don't value anymore. And there are other things to worry about too like getting pregnant or getting an STD. Even using condoms won't guarantee you won't get pregnant or an STD. When I was younger I made a lot of mistakes and I regret doing them. It made me feel bad about myself and I didn't have a positive outlook on relationships. Maybe you should talk to your mom, a sister, or someone else you can confide in. I hope you make the right decision.
2006-11-09 12:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by bornagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those things are meaningless. I'm sure that if he said "all of the above except that one" you'd be on here asking "why is my bf unwilling?" or something like that. I mean I am nowhere near saying that its good to have sex before marriage. In fact its horrible. Don't think that i'm saying that. Anywho, the point is that he probably just didn't want to come off as hesitant, or unwilling. And it also shows that he would do anything for you. And no you're not overreacting about it. Its a serious matter.
2006-11-09 11:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a boy is fourteen - the only thing he can think about is sex. Morning - noon and night ! That's natural - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. What you have to decide is whether you want sex with him - bearing in mind that if you do - you'll be causing him to break the law. He'll get in trouble for it - not you - which I've always thought is unfair. If you do everything but intercourse then really there's no harm as long as it's what you both want and you're not just doing it to stop him pestering you.
Best way to deal with it - if you're up for it that is - is to give him fellatio or relieve him with your hand. You'll stop him climbing up the walls from frustration and it'll be a pleasant change from him masturbating himself which I assure you he does - and then you can both get on with having a relationship without the sex bit getting in the way or him breaking the law - and you also might find you enjoy it. To put it bluntly - make sure you have the control over the sex issue not him - he's not the one that gets pregnant - is he ?
2006-11-09 12:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT have sex with him you are too young and so is he. If you are unsure then that should be telling to wait. There are too many negative ramifications of giving in. You could become pregnant. Are you ready for the responsibilities of raising a child. What do you have to offer. How would you take care of a baby?
Sexually transmitted disease, do you want one of those? Once you make that decision you relationship will be changed forever.
It is a very important decision that you should think about for as long as you need. Do not be peer pressured into doing something you're not sure about. Chances are if you wait you'll be glad you did until you're older and until you know for sure you're ready and it's the right person.
2006-11-09 12:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny I lost my virginity when I was 14. I regret it. I also got pregnant when I was 15. It's really hard to raise a baby at that age. I am now 19 and I still have my daughter. WAIT!!! Don't let him take advantage of you. If you don't think he will then talk to him about it. Tell him you're to young and you're not ready. If he is a good guy he will understand. If he doesn't well then you can find some one better. I know thats easy to say but hard to do. You have your whole life a head of you. You're NOT over REACTING. Don't let someone tell you that you are over reacting about this. Trust me you're not.
2006-11-09 12:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by si_si_mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're overreacting, but I think you should be clear with what you want. He seems like he will respect what you want since he said that he would only if you wanted to, and you are only 14, so it is best if you wait to have sex. Make sure he understands that you are not ready. If he cares, he'll wait. Don't have sex just because you like him and don't want to lose him. That's always a mistake. Good luck, Goddess Bless.
2006-11-09 11:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are NOT over reacting. It is perfectly natural to not really know what to do in this situation. Girl, you are 14, give yourself some time to find the right guy who wants to MAKE LOVE with you, not just F*ck. You have to understand that losing your virginity is something special and it should NOT be taken away from you against your will. Honey, do your self a favor and let this kid know that you respect yourself more than to get yourself get F*cked.
2006-11-09 11:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know your limits and maintain self respect. Remember those two. Whatever it is that he sent you try to forget about it and just enjoy your life as a teenager (enjoying it COULD include NOT having sex). The decision whether you would be sexually active or not is up to you. But before you do anything....please...please.. always weigh the possible consequences.
You might want to check this site:
http://www.teenpregnancy.org/psa/videos/yourlife_30.asp
2006-11-09 12:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by myei8th 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't have sex with him! Your too young. He should really respect your feelings. I don't think he should talk to you like that, It seems like he doesn't really respect you if he talks like that. Especially saying that on Myspace. Just be careful, I don't think your overreacting. I hope it works out in the end, good luck.
2006-11-09 11:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Barrelracergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ain't done anything wrong by saying that. He's your boyfriend and if he's attracted to you physically and personlity wise then it's only natural that he would want to have sex with you. Now whether or not he's just with you for the p*ssy (which it doesn't sound like he is, but I don't know him to say) that's up to you to figure out on your own. If you wanna wait, then by all means do whatever makes you comfortable, if you wanna have sex then just be safe.
2006-11-09 11:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Misheee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋