i am cutting and lots of people suggested that i talk to my parents but i am really scared to tell them?

Question

i don't want to get into trouble

Answer 1

Caitlyn, I know it's scary to talk your parents, but you need their help. You don't have to tell them right away that you're cutting, but at least try to tell them you're unhappy. So many people suffer in silence just because they're too scared to tell anyone. Your parents can help you to feel better, but they won't know you're hurting unless you tell them.

If you tell your parents you're cutting, I can't promise that their reaction won't be scary. It's hard for parents to find out their child is cutting. No one wants to see their little girl hurting herself. It's scary for you to tell your parents, but it's just as scary for them to hear it. They might yell at you, they might cry, they might act like nothing's wrong, but what they're probably not going to do unless they're trained psychologists is react how you want them to. You'll have to give them a little time to get used to it. But once they come to terms with it themselves, they can help you, and you really need their help.

You can also make it easier by how you tell them. A lot of times it's most tempting to tell someone when you're mad at them, kind of like "look what you made me do." Don't do that. It's best if you're as calm as possible, and so are they. Don't bring it up too casually, either. And don't just show them the cuts. If they think it's not a big deal to you, it makes it scarier for them, and they're more likely to yell at them.

The best thing to do is go up to your mom or dad (whoever your more comfortable with) sometime when you're not having a fight or anything, and tell them you need to talk to them. Tell them you need their help (even just say it, "mom, I need your help with something"). They're a lot more likely to take it well if it's really clear you want their help. And try your best not to get angry at them if they don't take it well, cause the last thing you want is for it to be something you fight about. Also try not to show them the cuts, at least right away. It's really hard for parents to actually see the marks on their beautiful baby girl, and the harder it is for them, the more likely it's not going to go well.

Tell them why you did it before you tell them what you did. It's less of a shock that way. Tell them that you're unhappy, tell them what's going on at school and how it made you feel. Tell them as specifically as you can why you cut, try to tell them how you felt right before the first time you cut, and then after all of that tell them that you cut.

Sweetheart, I know it's scary, but you can do it. You're in 6th grade now, right? You're practically a grown up already. Be brave and tell your parents you need help. It will be ok. No matter how scary it is, their still your parents, and you're still their little girl. They'll still love you, and they'll still take care of you.

Caitlyn, if you ever want to talk, you're welcome to email me at [e-mail].

Answer 2

It's very easy for people to say tell your parents and it is something they need to know. When my children have something they need to talk about but they are afraid they will get in trouble for whatever it is, they start the conversation with----- I have something to tell you but I'm afraid you might get angry. You say I should just tell the truth and that you love me no matter what. I need your help. I have a problem that I can't fix by myself. I don't know what to do. Will you listen and help??????? Well, they don't say those exact words but that's the general idea. I seem to listen and react better to this and I really appreciate how hard it is for them to talk about whatever it is. I cut for years but have been "clean" for 1 and 1/2 years now. It's not fun but there are things you can be taught to try to overcome the need to do it and to understand why the need is there. The best of everything to you and if I could I would give you a big hug. Be brave-be strong.

Answer 3

As a parent myself, I suggest that you do talk to them about it. There is something going on w/ you emotionally for this to be happening and nobody can love you like your parents do. Either you are feeling really bad about something and the pain from cutting makes you forget about it or you get a high from it. Either way, you're at risks for infection and other problelms. They can get you some help. My friend (an adult) does this. It's alot more common than you think but she is seeking help and it's helping her. Get to the bottom of why you're doing it and you'll be alot happier. Hang in there.

Answer 4

ive been there my self and there is a chemical reason why people self harm when you cut yourself your brain releases endorfins kind of like a pick me up feeling trust me from my own experiance it can go to far, and the scares can be embarassing try holding ice in you hand it will have the same effect i know it can be embarrasing and you might feel people might think your stupid and to tell people you might feel ashamed of what you do
it doesnt work for every one but counciling can be a massive help just dont let it get to far i did and nearly ended up not being here what ever it is that is making you resort to such measures it might be hard to belive know but things do and can get better hope my advice is of sum help just dont forget put down the sharp object and get out the ice p.s. im gona change my setting to accept ims if you wana talk you can

Answer 5

Well if they loved you at all you would not get in trouble!! They would try to have a mature conversation with you about you are doing it and try to be there for you and help U thru... if your parents are not like that then you should try to talk to someone you can trust and GET HELP!! That is a serious issue and plus it leaves horrible scars. I have done it in the past.. and I could not talk to my parents or anyone else at the time....if you need to talk then IM me.... Good luck

Answer 6

if you are afraid to tell your parents, find another adult you trust and tell them...maybe a neighbor, a friend's mom, the school counselor, or someone at church.

i wouldnt worry about getting into trouble. i am a parent and i would do anything i could to help my child and to take away her pain. you are cutting for a reason and a trusted adult can help you tell your parents and also get you the help you need.

Answer 7

If you don't want to talk to your parents, find someone else - doctor, hospital nurse, minister or someone to get the help you need. Even if you talked to your parents, they should recognize that this is not a time to get you in trouble.

Answer 8

Sweetie, what's going on in your young life that you feel the need to cut yourself?
You need to talk to someone about this. You should know that this is no place for medical advice, but
Cutting is a control issue, that can lead to things far worse than scabby thighs
As a parent, if my child came to me and honestly told me what was going on, I'd be tickled! Hopefully, you have understanding parents that realize you'll need some help to get over whatever is causing you to feel that you need to injure yourself
please try to hold off on cutting until you talk to your mom, and bring it out in the open and show her your cuts and ask for her help
Baby Girl, please talk to someone, anyone just get it out in the open

Answer 9

I don't mean to sound blunt but here it is....you are hurting yourself worse now than your parents ever will. The best, wisest thing you can do is tell them about it. You need their love and understanding most of all. And that's just what they're going to do: try to understand where you are coming from and love love love you! Blessings and compassion, my friend.....DON'T let your fear and or shame win out on this one. LET THE FOLKS KNOW.

Answer 10

You won't be in any trouble. I guarantee it. No matter how hard your parents are on you, they will understand that you need help. That's all that you need to focus on right now. Getting help. Go tell them...right now...go on...I know it's embarassing and you might be scared but right now I'm scared for your safety. Go ahead tell them now so you can get the help you need.

Answer 11

....You are already IN trouble if you're cutting. They just want to help. Go to therapy and talk to your parents.