no mean answers! i am a black woman and my son father is white he has not seen his son for a long time, so i called him and ask him why? he said he join the KKK, and me and my son is dog **** to him. i am so hurt ,i just whant to move on... but how???
2006-11-09 11:24:52 · 14 answers · asked by sweetlips24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and yes i am for real
2006-11-09 11:33:28 · update #1
You and your son will be better off to just forget this and move on. It is sad that this has happened but there is nothing that you can do to change him and you certainly don't want your son to be around this kind of bigotry. If he has not seen him for a long time already, then you need to just continue on with your life as it has been up until now and if he (son) asks about his father.....just tell him that he is involved in another kind of life right now and isn't ready to be a daddy. Don't involve him yet in the nastiness of this way of life that his father has chosen. It would only hurt him and he probably wouldn't understand it anyway, and there is no reason to confuse him with things he is too young to understand.
If you are concerned about a father figure for his life...see about getting him connected with Big Brothers or if there is an Uncle he can pal up with, this would be good also.
Are you involved with anyone now? If you are, he might also spend some time with your son.
2006-11-09 13:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will get this off your mind... In the mean time, make sure your son doesn't grow up like his dad. Teach him to embrace his background and be proud of who he is. Screw the dad if he can't see past something for the sake of his son, but your son is the most important thing here. I can understand you being hurt. Children are amazing, very smart, and very capable of picking up things from the adults around them. He may pick up your hurt, be very careful of that. And if this is how his father feels, then do you really want your son around him? What if he teaches your son to be just as racist? Inturn, your son is ashamed of his ethnicity. You don't want that, so look at the bright side, aren't you glad he did this now instead of teaching his son to be ashamed?
2006-11-09 13:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be insane, no doubt. I know that is a horrible thing to forget, and you are surely asking yourself how you could fall in love with this man in the first place...It's going to take a while after you can "process" this whole situation...Try and keep you and your son busy, join good natured people. I don't know if you go to church, but there you can join some charity work group, so you can "cleanse" your system doing good deeds (visiting people in need, for example elderly in retirement homes, lonely children in hospital, etc). The feeling of good actions is going to help you, no doubt. I'm telling all this from experience. I had to deal with really mean people, REALLY mean, and the only thing that helped me was helping children in need (I live in an underdeveloped country), and I'm still doing so, it helps a lot. Good luck!
2006-11-09 11:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by cecilia d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! He is really the one who needs help, he has a son of a mixed race and should realize that all people are human regardless of color! Love you son as much as you can, with a father like he has he will need you to care for him.
2006-11-09 11:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by georganne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't want nor need someone who is so hateful and stupid. Come on girl, you can do better than that. There are lots of good men out there just looking for someone like you. Get involved in your local Church and other family oriented organizations, you are sure to find someone there.
2006-11-09 11:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by getting him to sign off all parental rights for your son. Then change your phone number and never look back.
2006-11-09 11:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nothing but a jackass.........forget him and move on with your life but be sure and get child support for your son and depending on the state you live dont forget the alimony.......good luck
2006-11-09 11:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your son deserve better. You are better off without him being in your life,rather then coming around being a racist a- -hole.
2006-11-09 21:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta cut things loose some time move on find other things to do instead of sit around thinking when you sit your mind will drift
2006-11-09 11:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just forget about him. Keep yourself and your son busy so that you arent thinking about it.
2006-11-09 11:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by geoffzaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋