I was extremely happy that my husband had a very distant relationship with his sister when we got married. She was (and still is) a control freak (just like her mother, my MIL). Now he's had some sort of epiphany and wants to include her and her abusive husband and two children (one of whom is like Damien from the Omen) for every family event. I feel like the victim of a bait and switch.
What would you do to maintain your sanity through these events?
2006-11-09 11:14:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well do what i do when everyone is sitting at a table just .....picture yourself in a far off island with beautiful palm trees and the beach waves and the cool air...........picture little Damien in a youth correctional facility and you sister in law and mother in law with tape on there mouth to keep them shut and there hands glued to the table ..................hey it works for me they leave wondering why they couldn't get under my skin and i stay with a giant smile .............good luck
2006-11-09 11:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by mari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bait and Switch. Do you really think he would deliberately tell you one thing and change his mind later. He wants to be close to his family. Just grin and bear it at each event. Also remember the Damien you referred to has probably learned his behavior from his parents so try to have pity on him its not his fault. Alot of people grin and bear it thru the holidays. Just be glad your husband wants a relationship with his family. Be supportive. How would you feel if he didn't want you to see your family? About sanity-if you find yourself in a situation that gets a little overwhelming take a break, go to the store, go outside and relax. Hide in another room for a while. Whatever helps the situation go smooth. Good Luck
2006-11-09 19:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell your hubby how you feel. Let him know that you will accept his family in your home on your terms. House rules must be followed and that you will not be a rug for your sister-in-law to walk on. If he truly cares about your feelings, he will meet you half way.
2006-11-09 19:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to be nice, and stay as far from them as you can. Do not invite them for anything, make your husband do it. Do not leave the kids alone together and do not loose control.
2006-11-09 20:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by FruitLoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you have a butcher knife handy? good. make some steaks and give them to his sister. that might build a better relationship. if not, she will like the steaks.
2006-11-09 19:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be supportive of him because it is good that he wnats to be close with his family.
2006-11-09 20:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋