ok.. so i am 20 y/o and i have been trying to figure out who i am and who i wanna be for a while now. there were times when i thought i found myself but i would later discover that i wasnt that person. now, i constantly find myself trying to impress people and i find myself feeling stupid at a days end. i also am constantly looking at different actors and wanting to act like them. the weird thing is i sometimes feel that i want to be like zack braff and other days wanna be like Dr. House. i am exausted from trying so hard. what do i do?
2006-11-09 11:07:10 · 13 answers · asked by doctorhockey18 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Stop trying. It sounds like you are trying really hard to be someone you are not. If you stop trying to please others and just be yourself, then you will find out who you really are. You shouldn't try to be like others because you are not them. They can be role models for you but you need to find your own way. If you just take a break from impressing others and acting like others you will find the true you. You have nobody to impress but yourself. And I know that you will find that you are a pretty OK guy in your own right. Sit back, relax, be yourself, enjoy life.
2006-11-09 11:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by L. S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn off the tv
movies are gross egsaguration they are fiction ,even acters are only pretending to be that they on film alone can be for eternity
you are not living a movie you are real they are delusional created fictional nothings
get out into life ,there you will be what your job requires ,so when you are working you will play that part ,then get a hobby while you are being that role the hobby requires you might be meeting the love of your life ,you then become aq lover ,the lover becomes a father ,the perent becomes a grand parent ,perhaps a politiclly active parent or a football parent ,there are many roles you will play in real life ,you will have many parts that make you who you are and will become but lifes not a movie yet you must write your own script
try being you its just as egsausting but its alleready written before you were created that you would be a star of the light of god just by being yourself.
2006-11-09 19:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not all these other personalities on the TV or in the movies. Anyway these people are not the roles they play. They are actors.
First step is to find out THAT you are. Then Who you Really are.
Be yourself, not who you think others want you to be.No wonder you're exhausted.
Much better to be interested in life and living than to spend all you energies trying to be "interesting" to others.
2006-11-09 21:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by thetaalways 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at actors. Who are you when no one is looking? Or when you're in the dark, by yourself? Stop trying to impress people. You dont' need to answer to them in the end, the only one you'll need to answer is God. So live for Him. Thats more fulfilling than anything else.
2006-11-09 19:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by ac28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Why do you feel like you need to impress people? When you try to be something you're not you come off as being phony and you'll feel phony. Outside looks and appearances don't mean much. I really respect someone who is kind to others and puts others needs before his own.
2006-11-09 19:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you when you're not trying to impress anyone? Who are you when you're fighting with your siblings? Who are you when you are alone with your parents or other people really close to you?
In order to find out who you are, you have to behave genuine to what you believe and want.
The first step to finding out who you are is to ask yourself questions like above and explore the answers. The biggest thing is to be honest with yourself.
Also - finding out who you are could take a few years.
2006-11-09 19:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel you. There are times when I forget who I am, usually when I try to be who every wants me to be, or when I define myself in their terms (ie "employee" or "little brother"). Don't try to act like a character on TV. Don't try to be who were were. Life is about creating yourself, not finding yourself.
2006-11-09 19:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Eleventy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill dude... The moment you stop trying to be everyone else is the moment you become yourself.....was that deep or what?
2006-11-09 19:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by softfuzzyrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to impress people. Just relax, seek God and it will come.
2006-11-09 19:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by LaRue0715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry there my friend, its going to take a while longer to find your true purpous, the best advise I can give you is pray to the holy spirit, and invite him into your heart to guide you
2006-11-09 19:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋