ok i have 3 children 2, 1, and 6days their father left me only 2 dayz ago. which would make it 4days after i had my 3rd child. he doesnt want to see them ever again. but they keep asking about their dad. what do i say. wat do i do???? please help...
2006-11-09 10:52:42 · 19 answers · asked by Tasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm soo sorry.
bring him to court.
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talk to her, you guys can relate.
2006-11-09 10:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is probably the hardest thing you'll ever have to do. And I feel for you. Dont lie to them, but dont be overly blunt. Tell them that daddy needed to go away, and your not sure if he's comming back. They'll cry and its heartbreaking. It'll be the hardest on the older two. Cuz obviously they remember him. They'll probably try to use it against you. Dont let them. My sisters step daughters mother was put in jail for drugs among other things. And she's 5. She used it against every person who wasnt her mama. Its probably better for them that he left. Leaving three kids that dont understand is harsh.They'll understand when their older. Dont yell... Im assuming that you might be as upset about him leaving and complications with having a new born its frustrating. Just tell them the truth. It will make you feel better and keep a long standing relationship with your kids. Telling the truth builds trust.
I wish you the best of luck. You have your handsful. See if there is any family in the area that is willing to help. Family is a blessing sometimes.
Once again good luck
2006-11-09 19:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by amyman12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are really young and will easily forget about him.just tell them daddy had to go away for now to work sonewhere far away and your not sure when he'll come back. the 2 yr old might understand, but as for the other 2 thats hard and you'll probably have to deal with the questions for a while eventually they'll stop. my daughters father went to prison when she was about 2 yrs old and she asked for him for the first few weeks and after a while it seemed like she just forgot about him.i know it's tough but just hang in there and when there older and ready to hear about the decision there father made you can tell them thats if he even stays away that long, but don't let him walk in and out of there life as he pleases either he wants to be part of there life on a steady basis or not at all. good luck and don't let him make the decisions when he wants to play daddy.good luck....
2006-11-09 19:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when u don't think about your feelings towards your husband at all.You need to tell them that daddy went bye bye for awhile and he will be back. In the meantime u need to sort this out with your husband.Find out if he is really not coming back.If u know for sure then u need to tell them that daddy had to live somewhere esle but it is not cuz he doesn't love u. The least u can tell them the better due to their age. When they ask just say you'll see daddy soon. I wish u all the luck..
2006-11-09 19:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he is sort of overwhelmed by all this but then so are you. As for the little ones don't worry just tell them daddy had to go away for a while, they will stop asking shortly, You on the other hand need to look out for all of you, so get started with social services and take care of business, you have a long haul in front of you
2006-11-09 19:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. I am sitting here crying for you. This is a lot for you to be going through alone. I hope you have family to turn to for comfort and advice. If it were me, i would sit them down and tell them that daddy had to go away and you dont know when he will be back. If they ask why (which most kids will do) just tell them he had some things to take care of. This is so very, very sad and i do pray that you get an attorney and get divorce as well as child support started.........you will be in my prayers as well as those babies
2006-11-09 19:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this happen to you and the kids,but for a father to do and say that is very low,make his butt pay dearly in court with child support,as for the kids they are still babies all of them,when they get older tell them the truth,hopefully you will find someone else to love you and the kids to make things a lot easy-er.
2006-11-09 19:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. I would sit them down and say that Daddy had to go away and he isn't going to be back for a while. Hopefully he will be a man and come to his senses enough to see his own children. Good luck, i hope everything works out.
2006-11-09 18:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by geoffzaz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for right now tell them daddy had to go to work. may be he will come to his senses. if not hopefully they will stop asking and you can come up with something to tell them. I wish you luch. I had 3 children in 3 years and had a husband that helped with everything. It was still hard. I dont know if i would have made it on my own. I will keep you in my prayers
2006-11-09 18:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by careermom18 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Theres really nothing you can say other than being honest with them. Or if you want lie to them, which wouldn't be great because they'll realize one day. I'd just tell them, Daddy's gone.
I'm very sorry though, Good luck!
2006-11-09 18:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by c a t c h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the father doesn't sound very faithful. Maybe you could sue him or find someone who is willing to love you and care for the children with you?
2006-11-09 19:08:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋