Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months. i'm 13. he grew up in a small town and i was his first girlfriend. so i've taught him a lot. But, instead of telling me like hey u look good today, he tells his friends to tell me. and he never makes an effort to hang out. he never makes the first move. let's just say i dont want to be the "leader" in this relationship. i want to break up with him but i like him wayy to much and i'll probably cry for a week, since we were friends for a year before we started dating so theres a lot of memories. i've talked to him about it and he says ok im sorry i'll change. but he never does ...HELP!
p.s. if ur just going to say your 13 sweetie please dont answer because i know but i have feelings and emotions just like older people... i may not understand "love" but i didnt say i did.
2006-11-09 10:29:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old is he? If he is older than 13, he has a problem if he needs his friends to tell you "hey, you look good today".
My advice? Get enough Kleenex for the week, then tell him "goodbye".
2006-11-09 10:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie no matter what the age, relationships are hard for everyone. Noone really truly understands love, anything worth having takes effort and work., if you're the only one making the efforts, and putting in the work in the relationship maybe he's just not mature enogh for all that comes with dating and being ion a relationship. Try another heart to heart with him, just the two of you, noboby else around, see if you're able to get him to acknowledge any problems with your relationship. Or does he think everything's just fine between the two of you???!! You can't make anyone change their habits unless they want to make the change, forcing them to change will only cause resentment towards you down the road. If you honestly feel true to yourself that maybe taking a break from each other will help? Then give yourself that space and time(no matter how it hurts you or how much you'll cry) if it's meant to be maybe he'll see the light! Sometimes you don't realize what you have until it's gone!!! I know it seems harsh but it's better for you to find out for sure now, before you invest too much more in your behlf and he's not willing or able to do the same for you! If he truly cares for you and the relationship then he will listen to you and really hear what you're saying. Good Luck. Remember sometimes people don't realize they're taking someone or their relationship for granted, as painfull as it can be for you the direct approach is usually the best approach, just be sure it's one on one no interruptions no friends , just the two of you.
2006-11-09 10:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think u should definitely break up!! That guy is being a little to selfish. And plus u are to good to be treated that way. What the hell we are all to good to be treated that way.Just ask him if u can be friends because like you said he is attached to a lot of memories and you don't want to ruin your friendship.Just meet with him 1 day after school and tell him that you still like him very much and want to be his friend not boyfriend and ask him if u can take sometime off and for him to call u when he wants to be the leader.
2006-11-09 10:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not going too make an effort in the relationships too change then he may not be interested in the relationship or maybe he's nervous and doesn't want to be the "leader" cut him some slack and have a long talk about it with him about what your feeling and what you want from him if he does nothing about it or doesn't change after awhile then as hard at is break up with him believe it or not your probably better without him.
2006-11-09 10:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by valley1800 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a little patient with him. He is still growing up. one day he will get the message. For a while you may have to take the lead, Don't cry, just keep talking, and have lots of fun! Don't leave him, I bet he is a nice guy! Also have fun doing your school work!
2006-11-09 10:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no one understands love!
You have a more mature answer than most 13 year olds anyways, I'm sure you'll get a lot of responses...
2006-11-09 10:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell by your writing that you are older than 13.
If you have to ask the answer is yes.
2006-11-09 10:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
just ahng on in there n dun give up so soon or else u may regret it n then start wishin u had hhim bak
give him the chance n start to intitiate things u wud like to do with him
then he wud gt the pix n take ova ayt
dun give up yet
take care
2006-11-09 10:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by brawneyedempress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this wrong but ya'll 13 what u expect him to do he isn't all grown up yet.He might still be in his "girls have coodes" and "to shy to talk to girls" stages.Ya'll don't even need to be that stressed at that age.
2006-11-09 10:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet_Carmel10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds sweet, except him for the person he is, slowly his confidence will grow as he matures- if you love him ,give him a chance and don`t put pressure on him... shyness can be difficult to overcome...
2006-11-09 10:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Loo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋