boy trouble...as if that aint commen enough right??

Question

Well.....here goes....ive always been an out going person......its just the way i am.....i walk up and talk to anyone and everything...i make it a principal to get 10 hugs and day and make 3 new friends...its just the way i am.....ive always been an extrovert....but see....im starting to doubt myself becouse my boyfriend dumped me.......he said i was a flirt.....but thats not ever my goal......i talk to boys and girls alike with no sexual intention in mind...im a faithfull girlfriend....like i said ive ALWAYS been outgoing... the kind of girl who would say what others are afraid of...and take up for the minorities....its just who i am its me.....but i want to know...was he in the right? should i change my attitude? i dont like to be burned twice but im past the depressed feel sorry for myself stage into the wondering what i did wrong and how to fix it stage......any advice?? What should i do?? I lame of me to ask...but hey im lame 2! well thanx for any advice youd like to share...

Answer 1

I've dated two women that were kind of like you describe.

Sometimes when you date a super outgoing person, you feel like the least important person in their life. They are always on the phone or off in a club talking to other people, often guys.

And the guys the outgoing girl considers friends have something entirely different in mind, and wish you boyfriend would drop off the face of the earth. And you are the only one involve who doesn't see it.

You need to find a guy who is just like you, or you are going to have to focus on your guy when you are around him. And concentrate more on female friends.

Answer 2

Well...you have an outgoing personality and obviously your boyfriend saw that as something he wasn't compatible with. Actually, as much as it hurts now, he did both of you a favor. If he's not OK with your outgoing personality now, he's not going to be OK with it down the road. You need to be with someone that is OK with who you are. He did the right thing, by ending it without trying to change you first. Don't change who you are...but do be careful, because being so friendly can lead to some problems...such as being accused of cheating or being a flirt, not just from your boyfriend, but from other people whom you are befriending. Good Luck to you.