One of my friends had been with this guy who treated her unbelievably bad, until finally she broke it off. Anyway she just called me saying she can’t live without him etc. and she wants him back, and I seriously want to scream at her. I mean I’m not going to lie, she isn’t the brightest, but I care about her. I feel she needs to grow up, and realize that there are hard things in life, but you have to move on. It’s like there is only so much I can do...she already knows how I feel about the whole situation...the thing is, everyone, all of her friends can’t stand him. He is bad news, that’s all there is to it. And I feel like I’ve had enough. Part of me is like “you know what, if she wants to be a immature idiot there’s not much I can do about it...”. I tend to listen to what people close to me have to say about the guys I’m with, but we are very different. I would never stand for someone who treated me like he treats her.
Does anyone have advice? PLEASE ANSWER!
2006-11-09 09:52:44 · 5 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lol, and I apologize for the repetition of "like" "she: etc.
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2006-11-09 09:55:38 · update #1
Here's the thing jen - you can NEVER change anyone else. You can only change how you interact to them. No matter what you say or do, your friend is going to do what she wants to do. Sad, but true.
Have you ever noticed how people who are alike seem to find each other? For instance, a drug addict will hookup with another drug addict or someone who enables them to keep their addiction. Your friend has a need in herself to be mistreated so she finds someone who will mistreat her. She will continue that pattern all her life until she understands why she does it and changes it herself.
All you can do is be there for her. If that's too draining for you, then it's unfortunate, but you need to move on.
2006-11-09 10:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this and she never listened to me because she didn't ever have authority figures in her life when she was growing up. But what would help the most is getting all of your friends together and hanging out with her as much as possible to get her into a positive environment.
2006-11-09 18:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, to start off with you can give her all the advice in the world, but that doesn't mean she will take it. Also just because you think he treats her bad doesn't mean she thinks he treats her bad all the time. You have no idea what happy moments they share. My friends had told me my boyfriend was horrible for me and he would hurt me and our relationship was horrible... (to be honest he was treating me pretty bad sometimes- but I was treating him just as bad sometimes- and my friends didn't know about that side of it) but through time he has become the most wonderful and understand husband i could ever ask for.
my advice to you is support your friend if she is truely your friend, even if you don't necessarily agree with her. My advice to your friend would be to think very hard about the choices she is making... and to definately keep in mind friends opinions.
Good luck to both you and your friend.
2006-11-09 18:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think she was having a weak moment and would spend time with her to get her through it. No matter how bad he treated her, she hasn't gotten over her feelings for him.
2006-11-09 17:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope and I bet you are alone.......
2006-11-09 17:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋