ok...i met this guy named noah my eighth grade year i have been talking to him since....and we are on and off all the time..and he claims he loves me and wants to be with me but like when we do decide to hook up or whatever he never calls me because its his senior year and he has a job..i mean it doesnt take two min. to pick up the phone to say "hey babe cant talk right now but i will call u later" am i right or am i being selfish...?
2006-11-09 09:45:47 · 16 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not being selfish, as a woman I know exactly where you are coming from. Just try telling him that you don't like the fact that he cant find the time to call you even if its just for a couple of minutes. Tell him that you would like for him to work on fitting in a little more time for you.
2006-11-09 09:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT being selfish. It sounds like he wants the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. He might very well be busy, but you are right-he could easily give you a quick call. I know it might be tough, but you're probably better off with someone else who's willing to make time for you. Good luck with your decision.
2006-11-09 09:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by chickadee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the term commitment phoebe? Check out this book "Men who can't love" by Steven Carter and Julia Sokoi. I married a commitment phoebe and then had a boyfriend that was one. I finally figured out the pattern and am trying to avoid commitment phoebe men. It is very traumatic for them when they like a girl. It isn't because he is mean or you did anything wrong, he is unable to call you because he is afraid that it will lead to something more or that you will become reliant on him and have expectations of him. YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH, do not be hard on yourself for his thoughtless actions. I would tell you run...run like he...ll. But that has to be your choice. If you stay he will break your heart and destroy your self-esteem.
2006-11-09 17:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by smwah345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being selfish. A player would call you and flatter you.
This sounds like a real boyfriend, paying attention to what he's doing and taking responsibility. If you care about him you will understand the importance of patience.
2006-11-09 09:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right but sounds like you need to give him a dose of his own medicine and start ignoring him and stop calling him if you are because as long as he knows you at least tried to call him he's got you wrapped around his finger so why should he make an effort at all he feels like your always gonna be there so what's the point in him calling he knows you have.
2006-11-09 09:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally right. You can never be too busy to find 10 or 15 minutes in a day to call your girl. He has something or someone else on his mind.
2006-11-09 09:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 11:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's jut not into you like that your convenient to have maybe.
Or he's just really busy and doesn't have the time and your reading to much into it and making a mountain out of a hill. Just sit him down and ask him what it is he's looking for and what has changed if anything.
2006-11-09 09:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by blessnevapet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are more straightforward than girls are. If he says he will call you later, he might forget; maybe you can call him in the middle of the night and give him a lesson or too.
2006-11-09 09:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You right
You aint being selfish
Hey should at least give you a quick call?
What grade are you in now?
2006-11-09 09:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋