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Question

i'm 17 yrs and doing my senoir year in high school. i'm from africa and high school has been hell. i've been in america for almost a year now. in school i have no friends, pple don't wanna interact with someone from another country especially africa. they laugh at you cuz of ur accent and this makes me always quiet in class. these pains hurt me so badly and i sometimes cry. while in african, i was out going and had lots of friends but i didn't know wut i was gonna face when coming to america. sometimes student look at u like trash, especially some black gurls. kids even from my country ain't dat nice. they gossip and i'm not into dat so dat makes me even more lonely. one of my greatest pain is dat, i just keep dis inside me and have nobody to talk too. i feel my teen life is wasted cuz i'm having no fun. i even don't wanna go to my prom cuz i don't wanna feel lonely and see others having fun. guys don't even talk 2 u cuz u r from africa.

while in 11grade, i loved a guy cuz he even spoke to me. i didn't tell him cuz i'm shy. later i decided to tell him, but i did over the phone. he told me he has a gf but we could be best friends. i was so glad cuz i thought i will have a friend, something i've been looking for. well, dat wasn't the case. he acts like he doesn't know me anymore. i'm the one who always call him. he doesn't reply my mail. i just cry cuz i been through a lot in skull. i really wanna know if the guy treats me this badly cuz i'm from africa. i don't think he could treat an african american gurl like dat. well, i face hell in school. i come home immediately after school cuz i have no one to talk too. i try making americans my friends so i get to speak like them real quick and avoid this mockary, but dats not the case. life is hard.

i'm a girl and i'm here with my mom. but i don't think it wise telling her how skul is like. i just try having good grades to make here feel everything is all right.

Answer 1

Yeah...welcome to the land of the free. This type of conduct is why we Americans are great. Thats why we have these lovely things like Columbine and a host of other student killing students over the years. You see my African friend...just because an American kid goes to school doesn't mean that he or she learn anything. I mean why should they? That's an adult responsibility.

You're better than them all. Every last one of them. My advice to you is this. Absorb all of the education you can. Take advantage of any oppurtunity the United States of America gives you and run with it. You'll see. The best part of finishing high scholl is all the worms whov'e treated you lousy are divorced, alcoholics or working in dead end jobs making Ipods for some company. making them mind you....not designing because that takes brains.
Mark my words....you'll be splitting atoms or looking for a cure for cancer and after a good days work you'll stop in the local 7-11 for a couple gallons of gas and a cup of coffee and guess who'll be making ice slushies behind the counter? Yep...thats right! An old class mate.
Head down to the local restaraunt with you spouse for dinner and guess who'll be working the valet lot? Oooo..another classmate. Finally...you get a flat tire on the way home. Call for a tow truck and guess who shows up to bust the tire and change it for you? Yep...you guessed it.

Don't give up hope. You're hands above the rest. You have class and brains. As hard as it may be you must remember you're dealing with people of a lesser intelligence level.

Answer 2

he's getting in your head. careful on guys who play with ppl like there are strings. I've seen a lot of those cos I have a guy who says he loves this girl and the other. I asked him why he said so, you know what he said?!? He said- those are just words. He has to show some actions and sincere ones. That would develop in time. But since he has a gf, if he LOVES you- he'd leave that girl for you. If he likes you, he might just flirt with you and you misinterpret those - he might have lead you on and be careful if you fall hard... he might want you for the wrong reason. Be careful, really! Usually those stuffs, when the girlfriend smells something fishy- that's when you realize you'd rather keep your distance if you don't want smokes blowing in those 2 + 1 relationships. It just doesn't tango. Know him more as a friend. That's the least you can do for now...

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear all of that and I don't want you to get a bad taste of American society. Not all of us are like that and if you lived in our area, you would be popular because you were from another country. It just depends on what part of the country you live in. Even where you are at, I am sure that there is someone that wants to be your friend. Just don't fall into the wrong crowd just to feel accepted. A true friend will want to hang out with you and not get you into trouble. If it means anything to you...I will be your friend and you can contact me anytime you want. I have to tell you that I am 30 and have a family so you don't think that I am weird or anything. My wife will be your friend too. Try talking to some of the people in your school and don't be shy. I am sure that you will find a friend soon.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are going to a very close minded school. I am guessing, it isn't because you are from Africa. I am thinking it's something else. Are you smiling alot? I know if you are scared it's hard to do, but it is contagious and it could be the ice breaker you need. Maybe join a school club so they can get to know you. FInd something you have in common that is pretty "american" and maybe you will find friends doing that.

Good luck!

Answer 5

ok, first, lose the "Dis and Dat". its only one more letter to spell it out correctly. second, your story is terrible! but there are others like you, people in your school who are also outcasts and feel lonely. seek them out. i started high school just like you (well, ok, not quite as bad, i was in my own country. but went to a small, tight nit school, where i was the outsider) i sat alone at lunch and read a lot. then i started doing things - played football, joined the political debate team, anything to get into the world. i was never great at anything, but i was honest. i never tried to fit in by changing who i was. people at that age truly respect you when you have a solid sense of self, and self worth. it will take time, accept that. but be strong, and participate. reach out, and be determined to be cheerful. sooner than you think you will start collecting friends, real friends that will be with you for years. It sucks right now. hang in, youll be alright.

Answer 6

Not everybody has a good time in high school. They are full of clics and will do mean things to each other. Find the loner or people who have been nice to you, and start talking to them. Forget about the others. They need to grow up.

Answer 7

You just forget your school just go out and find some one like you in your neighbhorhood


not all people are bad

you might rarely see some one giving some respect to u or see you

just speak to them

just creat friends and it will make more friends dont get dissappointed if u come first in studies that can o you some favour

first concentrate in studies......


Thx..

Answer 8

kids will be mean, cold, unfriendly just because you're new, not necessarily bcuz of where you are from, accent, race, etc. Talk to the school counselor, your parents. You are very young and have many other things to concern yourself with throughout your life. maybe try writing in a journal. see a psychologist outside of school. maybe try joining some school clubs.

Answer 9

Being a teenager is so hard...Even harder when you're percieved as "different". You just have to continue to be friendly, eventually someone will be drawn to you. And be hopeful, because you will be in college soon, the real world, and it's not quite as judgemental. Hang in there! Make friends online, so you have someone to talk to.

Answer 10

awww I just want to give you a big bear hug!!! I had a hard time in high school to but let me tell you that college is so much better!!! People are so much more accepting! you will get through it! i've never done this but if you ever need someone to talk to or to just listen you can email me anytime you want! My email is [e-mail].