Does any parent put up with their child whinning?

Question

I am talking about a 6 yr old whines and cries at a drop of a dime for NO reason!!! Gets a little old after a while right??? What have you done if anything to stop it?????

Answer 1

I never put up with it. When my son threw a fit for a toy in the store at 2 I got in the floor and started fitting too. HE NEVER DID IT AGAIN. He was so embarrassed by my behaviour he didn't want to have it happen again. My best advice to you since you didn't start with the child young is just ignore it. I know it's hard but tell the child to go into the room and pout and come out when done. It's hard but it will work.

Answer 2

It's all about power and control. Some kids haven't learned that they aren't in charge of their lives. Kids will do their best to maintain power and control and use all kinds of tactics, including whining, to control their environment.
Our #1 house rule is: "if you whine for it ,cry, through a fit, beg, plead, fuss, carry on for it...the answer is NO!!" You do not get it.
No giving in!! To this day my teenagers sometimes try and I tell them the same thing. They know I don't compromise, and that they just lost out.
No means NO...not try to wear me out so that I'll give in. I am a man of my word and I mean what I say. I also don't allow my wife to whine at the kids. I tell her to change the tone in her voice. We as parents are in charge, legally, moral, physically and spiritually not the kids. I refuse to be worn out by them. I hope this has been helpful to you. Good luck. e-mail if you want to talk more.

Answer 3

My daughter didn't whine. Well she did for a bit as a small child but I ignored the whining, it went away and never came back. If you give in to the whining you are stuck with it for life.

Answer 4

No. I tell her I can't hear her if she is whining. If she does it again. I say nope still can't hear you. Usually about the third time she stops. If all else fails I put her in her room and she stays there until she can talk normally. When she stops whining I make a special effort to hear whatever she was trying to say and address the issue.

Answer 5

Don't give in, never! The child is whining because it must work. When it doesn't work anymore, it will stop. While you are waiting for them to get the hint, send the child to their room, a corner, a time out spot, til they stop. Ask the child if their wasted energy got them anywhere, and if all that nonsense was worth the nothing result. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I have an 8 tear old boy that cries and whines at anything! I t makes me so mad when he does it. I have disciplined him and when that doesn't work I tried grounding him and when that doesn't work, I tell him I have nothing to say to him and he doesn't talk to me or anyone in the house, until he talks in a normal little boy's voice, no crying or whining, and he then talks normal to me, because I ignore him until he talks in a normal voice to me.

Answer 7

I never did that as a child because I knew if I did, I'd get an ***-whipping. But nooo, can't spank the little darlings nowadays.

I was lucky...my son never whined. Never had a reason to. But hearing some little rugrat throw a hissy is like having an ice pick driven into my ear.

Answer 8

Kids go with what they know. If you have given in to one of those fits, even once, you are in for a long rehab.
When 1 of my 5 children tries it, I stop it right away. If at home, just walk away. Let them fit themselves into exhaustion if nessesary, but don't give in. It's not mean, it's being firm and being a parent. If it's at the store, as inconvienient as it may be for you, just take your kid and leave the store. Go back for what you need later, but let them know who is boss and what is and isn't acceptable. At a restaurant, take the food to go and get out.
It isn't going to take long for your 6 year old to see that the fits aren't working but you have to stay strong.
If they cry for 10 minutes before you give into them, then you try to be firm expect that fit to double in length at least. They are using what "weapons" they have and methods that have worked in the past to get the point accross for how they feel and what they want.
If it's possible to sit down and discuss things with them, do so. Tell them you love them and no matter what you will always love them. "I don't like what you did, but I still love you" type of thing.
"I love you but you aren't going to have chocolate cake before dinner." and walk away.
Staying and arguing or watching the fit only makes them believe you are going to crack. They will try harder.
At age six you could even say "take it in your room, cause I don't want to see it. Come out when you're finished." and if he/she doesn't go, pick them up and put them there.
My kids aren't angels by any means, but they know better than to throw a fit my way.

Answer 9

i think if the whining is about commenting about things then try saying to them - 'try asking me AGAIN in a normal voice'

that will get them to take a deep breath and speak in a less whiny tone (which is less annoying to you too)

other strategies

ignoring them if it is over a trivial matter

anticipate and prempt possible whine making events

distract them if you sense a whine is about to occur

Answer 10

OMG...whining makes me CRAZY!! My daughter isn't old enough to whine yet, but believe you me...i will NOT tolerate it! All of my neices and nephews know that there is no whining allowed in my house. If they whine, I don't even respond to it. I tell them I can't understand that language. :-)