ok so how you get your man to work less?

Question

I work full time hours and my partner works self employed as a union rep where he goes all over the south respresenting clients at disciplinary hearing etc.,
he is out 5 days a week sometimes until about 8 oclock at night. then he comes in and has to spend at least an hour reading e mails. on top of that he sometimes has to spend all evening writing letters or replying to the e mails.
when we do go out, he takes his phone as well just in case a client needs to speak to him, though he doesnt do this at weekends thank god.
we have been seeing each other for a year now and we are talking about moving in together but as Im not happy with the quality time we spend together how do i approach him with this. he has just told me he may have to attend a meeting on sat so this has really pee-eed me off. help

Answer 1

You don't get him to work less. If you are serious about him - enough to move in - you need to accept him for what he is and roll with the punches. A good relationship isn't about time spent...it's the quality of that time. Not the amount. He's working hard to provide a life for you two. Don't ever discourage that. There are women out there who would give their left arm for a working man! Take him for what he is, and love him for it. If you can't, you need to let him go.

Answer 2

If he were working 7 days and not spending any QT with you, then you should be worried. At least he doesn't stay up all night and every weekend working (which I have suffered in the past).
As it is, he is yours at the weekend. So what if he has the odd saturday meeting, It would be worse if you were a football widow.
I think you are being selfish, considering the hours he is putting in, in order for you to build a better life together. Accept the situation and be supportive of his career goals.. If you can't, you are with the wrong person and you should let him go so you can both find someone who will give you what you both need.
Good luck

Answer 3

alot of guys have a dream of owning their own business and providing for their family etc. These are the flaws with starting your own business, you have to do everything possible to keep your clients happy. You should be happy that you get some time with time and that hes happy to work hard and not just sit around home and live off the government.
theres alot worse that that when it comes to 'workaholics.
you could try talking about it with him but his business will be very important to him so he may not be open to much compromise

Answer 4

God, I'm so with you on this one. They're always working, and there's really nothing you can do to make them stop. I've tried many things. Many.

Eventually, I jsut started returning to hobbies and things and cutting myself off from thoughts of him.

It's not a great thing, but at least the time you do spend together becomes special.

Answer 5

hey...wait till you both move in...you'll be sick of the sight of each other......no just kidding....check his diary and find a gap...book a weekend away for you both, get time together, he'll be glad of the break...then you can discuss moving in together...and maybe you could tell him how you feel about his work schedule....a nice little log cabin would be nice...somewhere secluded and private...you both need to talk about your future plans so getting away will be ideal

Answer 6

sounds like it sucks but you know how many women have do nothings at home sitting on the couch, it show something about his character hes motivated you just have to find something you can do together he will put the same kind of effort into

Answer 7

You really can't change his work hours, but maybe you could take an occasional trip with him when he's working.

Answer 8

cant he is a work aholic