Okay, me and one of my friends ocassionally have casual sex. Before we started having sex, he told me that he liked me. He's a real sweetheart to me. He gives me backrubs, and warms me up when I'm cold. And says he's always trying to impress me. But, he's five years older. Which means, it's hard to trust that. And, I'm thinking maybe he only does that stuff so I'll continute to have sex with him.
What do you think?
2006-11-09 09:09:55 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try this test.
The next time he asks for sex, decline, saying that you are just not in the mood.
If he presses on, it's jsut the sex he's inetersted in. If he accepts your request, it is something deeper
2006-11-09 09:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you I've had a few casual affairs with different men, both older and younger than myself and if you ask me he's in for more than casual sex. Most men who just want sex don't do all the other nice sweet caring things...it's wham bam thank you ma'am and that's where it ends. Does he have any other bed buddies, girlfriends? Do you go out in public and does he show affection there? My guess if he does all these sweet things and tries to impress you he's interested in more but kinda afraid you aren't since that was apparently the agreement you got into in the first place to keep it casual. Since you are obviously friends and you can trust each other if you are having sex then maybe you should just ask him if that is all he wants...if you are interested in more. If not then just don't mislead him and break the poor man's heart. :)
2006-11-09 09:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by ejk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...............always trying to impress you huh..... Ok, ask him what he has done to try to impress you. Use women's intuition on this one. You'll know if he's just b.s.'n you or not.
When someone tries to impress you, they start out with the "Standard" actions....and tries to improve on them in every aspect that they can before they offer their "Gift".
How often are the backrubs, and the warming of...coldness....(However you want to put it).
Slow down the sex (Just a bit...not enough to make him feel as if he's being tested...if he feels that he's being tested and it turns out that he REALLY is trying to impress you....it will only equal bad news), enjoy the closeness and the backrubs. You'll know then whether or not its all about sex.
One thing though....are you two in love? Thats how its sounding to me.....
gudluk!!!
2006-11-09 09:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends? Having sex? And he's 5 years older? Then how young are you? If you are 16-17, this is a major problem, if you are 21, then you are just niave. Please wake up and stop this foolishness, if he is really your friend, he would be putting you in a situation that is obviously confusing and making you wonder what the nature of your relationship.
2006-11-09 09:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, look at things from his perspective. A girl who is his friend, has only to be rubbed in the back and warmed up for him to get into the sack. Sorry to say, but if you expect its anything more than the sex, you are in for quite a big surprise.
2006-11-09 09:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be or he could actually have more than that for you.
Personally, I treat any girl that I have benefit's with very nicely. He might just be doing that cuz it's kinda hard not to treat someone nice when you're f*cking them.
However, it's likely that this may grow into something more.
2006-11-09 09:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell with this little info.
The age gap should not matter, esp since he's older.
He may be trying to please you sincerely or he may be a "player."
Try and do things that don't involve sex, and if he never seems interested or refuses, then he's into our body and not you.
If he'll do the more romantic things, he's probably really interested in YOU.
Best wishes ;)
2006-11-09 09:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by teh_popezorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has every guys fantasy! sex without strings or comitment....im sorry but he is only in this for the sex. and also, there should be no thing as casual sex....sex is supposed to be an intimate act of love....having sex with friends only leads to trouble....trust me...been there, done that.
2006-11-09 09:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would stop the sex for a while. Then if he still hangs around you know he likes you and if you seem to somehow break apart, your relationship with him was obviously just for sex.
2006-11-09 09:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by jrmerch1358 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got it right (finally). How can a girl be so clueless and give her body to someone she's not even married to? You'd have to be completely brainwashed by liberalism, with all due respect.
2006-11-09 09:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of figured out how much he loves or cares about you before you had sex with him. and i think you can figure out the rest if you don't have sex with him any more then you know what he wanted. my advice is next time wait until you know for sure. good luck
2006-11-09 09:17:47 · answer #11 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋