My GF and I are on a "break". We have a 3 year old daughter together, and untill recently we lived together. It was her idea for us to be apart but still together, but she is acting like she is single.
She frequents clubs and bars, but gets extremly mad if I am going to do the same. She goes out with her friends, including at least one guy that is intrested in her, but gets mad if I see my friends that she doesn't like. We will make plans to see eachother, only to have her "forget" about them and go out with someone else or she goes out the night before and then says she is to tired to see me the next day.
Has she decided that she no longer wants to be on a "break" and just isn't telling me? I want to be with her, to work on our relationship and get married, but every time I bring "us" up she says that she has her own issues to work out first and can't deal with me right now. Then I don't hear from her for several days.
Should I just force the issue and get my answer or wait?
2006-11-09 09:07:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
She wants to go out with whom she pleases, yet have you stay home and wait for her to call in the event she decides to. None of this is fair and there is only so much of this you should tolerate. Either go out even if she does get mad and then throw it in her face that you are only doing what she is doing and nothing more, or make her make a decision now. This 'break' thing is only an excuse to play and still have the comfort of your relationship. Shes being selfish.
2006-11-09 09:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth! Tell her that she wanted the break and shes acting like shes single. Ask her is she wants to be on a permanet break or what! Also who has your 3 year old daughter? This isnt good for her either, to see mommie and daddie apart and mommie out parting away like she doesnt have a family. Just force the issue and sooner or later you'll have ur answer!
2006-11-09 17:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by miss_villegas_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want anything with u anymore.. sounds like it to me.. Also something else to consider. U have a young child together.. Who watches your child when she is off fu cking off at night... She doesnt want a break anymore.. she did this because she wanted space for herself.. maybe she felt she couldnt go and do anything being with u, but point be known .. U really need to just ask her what it is she wants and if it isnt u then u need to move on..
***work out something about u getting your daughter anytime u want as well...
2006-11-09 17:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she isn't done sewing her oats,if she wants to be with you, she would be! But she has to realize she cant have her cake and eat it too. so for you I would let her know how you feel and give her an ultimatum. Ive been through the same things just like her. "Wanted My Cake and Eat it too" That don't work it really brings both people down. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Sounds like to me she wants to still have you and explore also. You cant work on nothing apart, if she cant take a few nights out a week to see you (but you both have to put forth effort) then she really is done but she don't want no one else to have you, your her safety net. hope this helps!!!
2006-11-09 17:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stop seeing her, because obviously it's not working. If she doesn't give you the time of day, that's a mean thing to do. Although, I understand why you'd want to be with her, since have a 3-yr-old daughter makes things not so easy to disconnect with her completely.
2006-11-09 17:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like you have a dilemna. I'd say that as hard as it may be you need to put your foot down and tell her how it is. Start doing your own stuff whether she like it or not. True it may start drama but in the long run she may come to the realization that she can't keep you at her convinience. Its then that she'll have to make that decision. Best luck.
2006-11-09 17:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by caasi2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have your answer honey. I'm sorry but it sounds like she is done with you in the sense of a "real" relationship. You are her baby's daddy, and maybe a security blanket but nothing else. I'm sorry but that's how I see it. She's seeing other people and you know it. It's over. Start looking up custody laws now.
2006-11-09 17:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty sad that you two have a child in the middle of this and she should grow up and take responsibility. I would tell her to get herself together and that you two WILL be discussing your issues right away because you have a child to think about.
2006-11-09 17:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if she is very controlling over you. trust me man, you need to move on and DO NOT MARRY HER! if things are this bad now they will be even worse if you guys get married. you can still have visitation rights to your child. She sounds immature and shes trying to get her own way while she tells you what you can and cant do. you deserve better than that man!
i am a woman and i am taking your side - think about it!
2006-11-09 17:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tragedy for your daughter. Go to court, take your daughter from her, raise her until she is 18 and then start dating again. It is no longer about you or about her, its about the child. Why does everyone forget about the children?
2006-11-09 17:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋