Meeting the parents...!!!??

Question

So, I'm a little nervous about meeting my man's parents. He said that they will definetly ask me a lot of hard questions. Like what?? And, I HATE awkward silences. What am I supposed to talk about with them???

Answer 1

honey, be yourself!!!!!!!!! let them ask anything they like, after all you do not have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable. I am meeting my soon to be daughter in law thanksgiving for the first time, she has said over the phone she is nervous......and I always tell her, just be yourself, I will love you.....because you love my son.

Answer 2

It depends on their background. My catholic bf's parents pretend that we don't have sexual relationship. So every time we meet I have to play a virgin (my bf's 29, I'm 23), which is quite out of place. They don't even give us a room to share when we stay at their place. This in terms of how hard some aspects of it can be.
But back to your question, I agree with others. Be spontaneous, but not impolite, participate actively in conversations without imposing opinions, show interest in them/their family. Be positive and do not feel ashamed about anything. Probably by hard questions your bf meant things like what your intentions are with him, do you plan to marry, have children, what does your family do, career/study plans, i.e. concrete things about you, not just common stuff.
You shouldn't be scared though. Be courageous, think of the worst thing that can happen. It can never be something that crucial for you to worry before meeting them. They are parents like any other (I hope) and want to make sure their son is well taken care of :) .

Answer 3

We managed to slip into birthday celebrations to meet the parents (we met on July 31, my mom's birthday is Aug 27, his dad's is Sept 2) so it was a party-ish atmosphere and there was less attention on us being the "new person at the table." Talk about anything. Ask them about themselves. Interests, hobbies, what your man was like as a kid (get some good embarassing stories this way) etc.

Answer 4

be yourself, thats all you can be, answer them honestly and you'll be fine. meeting parents is always nervy, if your stuck with things to talk about, pick something they're wearing or find something around the room that you can say is nice or compliment them on, Cd;s and DVD's are always good. You'll be fine

Answer 5

Stay positive...no matter what they ask. Smile when you speak, be polite, practice good manners. Whatever they ask, stay upbeat, and if you don't know or understand the question, just say so .... "pardon me?" You will get through it. What is the hardest thign they could ask anyway? Be strong...be smart, smile! You will be just fine. We all have had to do this, and we have all made it through.

Answer 6

Be yourself, even if you are nervous. If you practice or rehearse answers, they'll sound it. Tell your guy that you are a little nervous and ask him to help out with the silent moments.
Good luck

Answer 7

politics and religion lol.

are you meeting them in a distracting place? like if there's other things going on, you could pay attention to those things during the silences, or ask them about their jobs.

Answer 8

talk about whatever topics the conversation leads to. You might want to read the newspaper today, so you know what's going on in the world. talk about your goals and future plans. don't be nervous- they're just people.

Answer 9

Be yourself and be civil and respctful. Avoid hanging all over him like some pukey-love sick teenager.

As far as hard questions go....if it isn't quantam physics then it isn't hard.

Answer 10

Don't rehearse things. Just be yourself... if they can't accept that then they have problems.