Ok, so im 11 and in 6th grade. my boyfriend Rie (Ryan is his real name but I call him Rie) is REEEEEEEEAAALLLYY hot and nice and funny and sweet. he is 12 and in 7th grade. i really like him alot. i was going out w/ him earlier this year but then i broke up w/ him for little r umors. then i went out with this other hot funny guy named james. i really like him. then when i went to the skate rink one friday and found out he was cheatin on me. i broke up w/ him as soon as i could. so the day after i broke up with james Rie asked me out again. I said yes. But james still likes me and he tries to hug me and hold my hand and stuff in front of Rie!! I always smack james or push him away or somethin, but he never leaves, and pretty soon Rie might start thinkin im cheatin on him! WICH I AM NOT. how do i get james to stop??? leave advice please!! thank you! =]
2006-11-09 08:46:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
and Rie ALREADY d james bcs james lied about winning the skate comp in elementary and bcs he lied about how good he could skate.
2006-11-09 08:47:02 · update #1
you all keep saying to not focus on boys and not have a boyfriend and focus on schoolwork, i understand that! but sorry i DO have a boyfriend at age 11 GET OVER IT idc if u think i shouldnt have a bf at this age (retards!) but i do and all i want u to say is how do i get james away. OK???
2006-11-09 08:52:47 · update #2
another thing u cant be mean to me cause im younger than you all!!!! and i have a bf who will hunt you down and kick your a ss!!!!!
hahahaahahahahahahahaha
kidding......
or am i.....
hahahaah
idk im bored and waiting 4 answers
2006-11-09 09:04:24 · update #3
Ok. Communication is the best thing for any relationship! TELL Rie that James won't stop trying to put a wedge between you and Rie, and suggest to Rie that maybe the two of you should tell James (nicely) that he needs to stop closing in on your personal space as well as respect the two of you. Be upfront with Rie, it's the best thing you can do. Good luck!
2006-11-09 09:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to tell you to get rid of James. You are all so young that not one of you has the maturity to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I certainly hope that your parents don't approve of this. You should not even be dating until you are atleast 16.
If you would wait until you are older and mature, than you would no how to handle this. The bottom line is that 12 year old boys are at a very awkward stage in life, just as girls are. You are making that transisition from being a child to being a teenager. That is most likely part of it. You are all still learning how to handle life. Truth is that he most likely does not know how to cope. Since you insist on acting like an adult by dating, you need to act like an adult, tell him that you don't like him anymore and that you want him to leave you alone. It might hurt his feelings, but if you are not mature enough to tell boys how you feel, then you are not mature enough to date. And at 11 you are not mature enough.
My question is, what do you plan to accomplish having a boyfriend? When you are old enough and mature enough for a serious relationship, then most people are looking for a person to spend their life with, you are much to young to be thinking like that.
My best advice, is get just have friend boys and not boy friends. Just be a kid and have fun, don't get caught up in all this drama.
2006-11-09 09:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "burn bridges". Tell James, if you think you could like him as a friend, that's how you want it for now. Go with Rie since, by what you say, you like him better. It's not playing with their heads if you do it this way. If you and Rie should split up, maybe James will still like you enough to want you to be his girlfriend. See the advantage?
2006-11-09 08:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off ... a 12 year old boy can not be HOT! :) Cute, maybe, but not hot.
If you are going with Rie, then you should make that clear to James. Tell him that you don't tolerate cheating, and he blew it with you. But if you tell him that, mean it and stick with it. Don't send him mixed signals. Then you may end up losing Rie also.
2006-11-09 08:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I wish my problems were as simple as that. Girl, you are way too young to be doing this. Worry about succeeding in school and planning a career path and Being somebody and not just another statistic!
2006-11-09 08:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow It seems like only yesterday these were my problems 2, ok so what you have to do is let the ex know that your not intrested and intrested in the current boyfriend.
2006-11-09 08:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by .:AMIZZLE:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 11 you need to go to school and learn something a boyfriend should be the last thing on your mind.
2006-11-09 08:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey. Go out with your girlfriends. Have sleepovers, try on makeup, gossip. Don't bother with boys yet. You have the rest of your life to deal with their immaturity. Tell them both to take a hike.
2006-11-09 08:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by 2boyzandagrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your last temper tantrum just proved all their points that you ARE way tooooo young. You reacted like a child - cuz you are one! Don't ask a question if you don't want all kinds of answers -- if you only want the answers you WANT TO HEAR -- only ask your little girlfriends.
2006-11-09 08:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why the heck do you even have a boyfriend, let alone two at 11 years old? life is short, try enjoying your childhood first.
2006-11-09 08:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mina222 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋