Last yr my Aunt invited a friend whom I never met and the lady took all the food home and didn't leave any leftovers for the us ( the family).
2006-11-09 08:45:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmmm. That's unfortunate!
I think holidays should be about spending time with the people you care about, the people who are "family" in your heart. My biological family is EXTREMELY dysfunctional, to the point where I can't stand to be in the same room with one of my brothers - or my sister's husband.
So the last 3 years, my daughter & I have spent Thanksgiving with friends: one year we went to the coast and stayed in a yurt, another year we had a "progressive" meal with the turkey at one house and the dessert at another, and last year a friend made the turkey and various friends & neighbors brought all the sides. Those have been the best holidays of my life, and it's given us the chance to form new friendships and strengthen old ones.
If these are the kinds of friends your relatives will be inviting, I'd re-think spending the holidays with those relatives. It doesn't say much about your Aunt, if those are the people she chooses to associate with.
2006-11-09 09:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since the person is an invited guest, you have to show common courtesy and make them feel at home. It could be that your aunt felt she had no family and that being around you and your family would make her feel good. If she took the food without asking, it is rude, but perhaps, she has no food at home. We never know the full circumstances of an individual's plight. They may be dressed comfortably and sound fair of mind, but they could easily be suffering shortages (i.e, financial, etc.) in their lives.
I'm sure your family will have food at home and can easily prepare something else. Give the person the benefit of the doubt, that perhaps she was needy and you fulfilled that need. Of course, if you learn otherwise from your aunt, bar that guest from any future get-togethers!!
Feed the needy, right? It's a benevolent deed in any event. I know some will remember, "feed the needy, not the greedy" but I think it is okay sometimes to just go ahead and feed them too! :)
2006-11-09 16:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My gosh, what a terrible thing to happen. I don't believe that the holidays should just center around the biological family. I also believe that others should be included if there is an opportunity such as next door neighbors, co-workers, bingo partners, bowling buddies, etc. And rules should be in place regarding the food. It could have been mentioned before hand that guests can eat as much as they want, but no "doggie bags" as we are expecting other guests throughout the day whether it is Christmas or Thanksgiving and even New Year's. Hope this year's holiday season turns out differently. Happy Holidays.
2006-11-09 20:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by roddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's one day a year. If you get annoyed because one day out of 365 a woman takes home all the leftovers, then you have a low tolerance threshold.
If the person that hosted the dinner had a problem with it, then they should handle it. There may be a number of reasons she took all the food (she may have fed other family members, she may be homeless, she may be going through hard times.) Whatever the reasons were, be thankful that you have enough food to actually have leftovers. Be grateful that you have family that you can probably see more than just on the holidays.
It's petty. Next time, just cook more food!
2006-11-09 17:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she was more in need of the leftovers then you and your family. During the holidays is a time to give thanks for what we have and to try and help out that are less fortunate than us. And although it would seem to most people that this woman was lacking in social graces for doing this perhaps she did not know any better and was just doing it so she would have a meal the next day. Be grateful for what you have and that you were able to help another.
2006-11-09 16:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I believe Holiday's are for both family and friends.
I had a invited friend a few years back, whom my kids don't like, but I felt sorry for her being alone. She thought of herself of course to load up on a bunch of food to take home, cause she hated to cook. I felt bad doing it, but I had to remind her, I had all the kids home for the holidays, and the left overs was what I had plans in a couple more meals. It was rude of me, but then I thought it rude of her.
Anyways, share the holidays with loved ones, friends and even slightly upbeat enemies. FUN for all.
2006-11-09 16:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she needed it, have you ever thought of that. Holidays is about family...yes but it is about giving and being thankful for what yu have and helping others have a good holiday also. So start opening your eyes and try seeing the other side of the story.
2006-11-09 16:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by homie_j 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We do Operation Christmas Child (shoeboxes filled with small gifts for kids in 3rd world countries) and Angel Tree gifts (presents for kids who have a parent in jail) and other small things like that. I guess I don't have a problem with extras at the holiday dinner table, either. I just don't like strangers in my home when I'm sleeping.
2006-11-09 16:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would definitely say it needs to be about family. No uninvited guests unless its cleared with the family first and definitely no taking all the food i don't care who they are unless they explain why they need it and are not just being greedy.
2006-11-09 16:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The life supposed to be one big family. Take a it as it is don't look for no sens for you but somebodies.
2006-11-09 16:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋