my mum and little brother and sister want to move back to our home town, but i am in college here where i live now and happy here, but mum wants me to move with her, but i want to stay here, she has asked me but she sed "i won't get my child benifits for you then". so i said whats more important? money or my happiness and she couldn't choose so she said both, now should i move with my mum or stay put where i am?
2006-11-09 08:34:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are in college there stay there and finish college. That is what is most important to you at this stage in life. For can still say the you live with your mother when you are not attending college.
2006-11-09 08:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you're happy. If your mum needs extra money she can get a part time job. As a parent myself I would love my daughter to live with me forever but it's my job to teach her to be independent as make sure she's happy. She wants to go to college 3000 miles away. I'm really sad about that but in front of her I am as happy as can be. Kids shouldn't have to worry about their parents,it is the other way around. You will only resent your mum if you go home
2006-11-09 08:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the time has come to put yourself first you are grown up settled at college made new friends where you are (which has you get older is harder to do) if i were you i would stay put finish your college course and see what happens then you can always visit your mum and brother and sister. if when they have gone and you feel that you really miss family life you can always pack your bags and move back all the best.
2006-11-10 22:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by cozz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay put, get yourself the college education, you can visit your mum or she could visit you. Don't miss out on college education for a messley £18 in your mums purse, which by rights should be for spending on you, if your not there she shouldn't need it so therefore won't be losing out on anything except seeing you, hey she could always ring you.
Explain to your mum that your education is necessary for you to get a decent job , when you have your decent job you could always bung her £25 a week so she wouldn't be losing anything would she.
2006-11-09 18:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have somewhere to live where you are, and your financially secure, then stay...if your old enough then look for a flat...unless you already have one....tell your mum that you will come see her for christmas, also when the school holidays come....you'll get on better with her in the long run, tell her your all grown up now and want to prove to her that you can make it on your own, it's good that you want to stay at school....but it this were me, then i would stay and finish school....your mum may loose her benefits but whats stopping her getting a part time job to make up the loss
2006-11-09 08:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your mom that you are not moving, and stay here to finish college and have a happy life and tell your mother to that you are really sorry but you rather choose to be happy and let her move, you can move out because you are in college yeah i think you should stay there Hope everything go well Have a wonderful day
2006-11-09 08:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is going to make you happy, and not regret it later. And when I say later I mean when your about 30- or 40 years old , will you be happy knowing you could have had a better future had you only stayed in school.
2006-11-09 08:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to weigh up whats best for you, not your mother who sounds like she just want to get the benefits to me. What i would say is go with your heart but if it was me then I would honestly say I would have to stay where I am and enjoy it while you can. Tell your mother that you have made your decision but you still love her but you want her to respect your choice and that it is non-negotiable. She maybe angry but in time she may realise that you are only doing what is best for you in the long run. Good luck.
2006-11-09 08:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now, and unless she is paying for your college, you should do whatever YOU want to do. It's your life now, and you need to take control of your destiny. That is what independent adults do. It doesn't mean you don't love your mom. It means you love yourself too!
If she is paying your college tuition, then honestly, you have no choice but to move with her. You can't expect her to pay for your schooling, and not get the child benefits she is entitled to to help pay for it.
2006-11-09 08:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard for any parent to let go. knowing that there child is finally growing up and wanting to be independent. you have already shown your maturity by asking the question 'whats more important. go with your instincts, but also tell your mum you realise how hard it is going to be for her but this your future and you may be able to help in the future with any difficulties she may have. child benefit stops when you are 19 if you are in education but there are other benefits or Ema you may be able to receive, you don't know until yuo ask.
2006-11-09 08:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋