I think he is going to propose soon, but?

Question

I'd like to propose to him? would men find that flattering or a bit scary and weird? LOL!
Please help.

Answer 1

Although proposing to him may seem flattering, it may just emasculate him. If you are sure he is going to propose soon, then just hold out. He probably has something fabulous planned, and popping the question to him would just ruin his fun.

Afterall, everything after the proposal is yours...let him be in control one last time.

Answer 2

My wife who passed away called me at work while still alive and proposed to me at 3 o'clock in the morning. I was taken aback by this but felt proud in reality too. She was smart and realized that if she waited for me at the time she would be in an old aged home before I would have popped the question. Sadly though the marriage did not last as she became addicted to prescription drugs and began being very mean to my children. She ended up taking her own life about 2 years ago by overdosing. I hope that if you propose to your man that it ends happier than my tale but I just wanted to let you know that it probably happens more than anyone is aware of and no it is not weird at all. Good luck to you with this proposal.

Answer 3

It depends on the guy, my husband has told me he would never want a woman to propose to him because its something he feels he should do. But some guys would find it flattering.

The point is, it depends on who your boyfriend is, if you plan to marry him then you should know enough about who he is and if he would like you to propose or not.

Good luck.

Answer 4

It depends. You know him better than us. Do you think he would get freaked out if you ask him? I wouldnt propose to my boyfriend because I know he is the kinda guy to go all out and I dont want to ruin any plans he has. Do you think he is planning something big? If so, then let him propose. If he really loves you and wants to be with, you proposing to him wont change his mind about wanting to marry you. Good Luck?

Answer 5

it all depends how the two of you are together. are you sure you really love each other, if you think he will say yes then go for it. the best way would be with a breakfast in bed, he would not be expecting it. go for it if you eally love each other. i proposed to my man yesterday it was so romantic. if he accepts he is likely to cry with joy.

he will not find it scary unless he is a church going, traditional kind of man

Answer 6

Women proposing is something that is becoming less taboo these days. If that is something that you'd like to do, then go for it!! I'm sure your guy will be taken a-back at first, but he will come around. Good luck!

Answer 7

I thnk it is sweeter when the man proposes it just kind of takes the fun out of it for you and him
you won't be a ble to remember how you reacted and he won't have the joy of watching you
anyway
congrats

Answer 8

Proposals: A Girl's Guide to Popping the Question
When you're ready to take the plunge and do the proposing, read on for our eight man-friendly proposal hints.
The best part about proposing to your man? You decide when it happens. No more waiting around for Mr. Slowpoke to get in gear. Better yet, this is relatively uncharted territory, so there are no pesky rules or protocols to follow, unless you want to ask his mom for permission!

That said, we polled experts for their advice, including Paul Alden, president of Will You Marry Me? Proposal Planners, and Christy Anderson, who authored Down on One Knee and proposed to her boyfriend a year after he had proposed -- unsuccessfully -- to her (she wasn't ready at the time and, out of respect for his feelings, decided it was her turn to put her neck out). Here are our eight hints for planning your proposal perfectly. If he's old-fashioned or doesn't like surprises, parachuting into his softball game in a wedding gown is definitely a bad idea.



Be Sure You're Ready

First things first. Take your relationship's temperature: Is it truly time to make it official? If you're still feeling significant uncertainty, concentrate on strengthening your relationship first. If you two are the model of a marriage-ready couple, forge ahead.


Be Honest About Your Motives

Don't propose because you want to see where your relationship stands. If you don't know, wise up: Alarm bells, not wedding bells, are what you're hearing in your head. Never propose out of desperation for feedback; resorting to this type of ultimatum on such an important issue means you're not ready to tie the knot. You should ask only when you're positive he'll say yes.


Know Thy Mate

By far the most important part of planning a successful proposal is to remember that this is not about your dream proposal, it's about his. Just as a man should know better than to broadcast his proposal across a blimp to a girlfriend who is quiet and shy just because he thinks it would be cool, you should cater your proposal to his personality. This goes double when proposing to men because it's so unusual for a woman to do the asking (Alden estimates that only 6 percent of his clients are women). If he's old-fashioned or doesn't like surprises, parachuting into his softball game in a wedding gown is definitely a bad idea.


Be Sensitive to His Ego

Kudos to you for being the first to pledge faith in your future together, but keep in mind that he may be a little disappointed that you stole his thunder, whether he was planning a proposal or not. If this is the case, Anderson suggests reminding him that your proposal doesn't mean he can't ask you back when he's ready (with a ring)!


Buy a Gift for Both of You

On that note, don't expect him to go out and buy you an engagement ring and don't give him a ring -- or any other form of promissory jewelry -- without buying one for yourself. Some of the items Alden's clients have used include matching necklace pendants, I.D. bracelets, and simple gold bands. It doesn't have to be expensive, just meaningful.


Think Unique

Plan a proposal with your shared history in mind. Choose a meaningful day, significant location and theme, for example, and be very attentive to details. Take the time to make it special and personal so that he'll feel cherished and understood -- and realize that you're taking this idea very seriously!


Keep It Simple

Alden suggests that people planning their own proposal keep it simple so that the proposer isn't distracted by too many details. The point is to enjoy the moment! After all, where and how you propose is important, but in truth, you will be all your sweetie sees when you ask, whether you're sitting on the beach in Bali or on the corner bar stool of his favorite local dive.


Plan for Success

Be smart about the logistics: Plan ahead, have contingency plans in case Mother Nature or traffic decide to wreak havoc, and choose a day and time of day when he'll be relaxed, and far from any looming deadlines at work or school. It's also smart to check and double-check reservations (restaurants, hotels, hot-air balloons, monkey costumes) and, if you've recruited friends or family to help you, to be sure that they understand their "lines" or roles in the event.

All things considered, the when, where, and how of proposing is much less important than the who! (In this case, one very lucky man!)

Answer 9

I'd say, let him propose. Men enjoy the "chase" more than being chased (at least, this is what I heard from guys).

Answer 10

give him time to make the first move...if he really loves u he wud definitely propose u...so why dont u wait and watch it happen instead getting disappointed later if it is the other way round....so stay back......just let it happen and accept his proposal......u wud love it when he proposes u....wont u.....wait for that day....if u really cant stand the waiting....go on.....be prepared for the consequences....all the best...