Here's my problem ... for as long as I can remember, all I have wanted out of life is to have a baby. I am 27 years old now, I have been working really hard, building my career since I was 22, and I earn a good income a own my own home.
However, I'm single, because I work so hard. In the last few weeks, 4 women I work with have all become pregnant, which just makes it feel worse that I'm not.
I have a friend who pretty much declares his undying love for me every few days .. originally I thought there was nothing between us, but now I'm not so sure, and it's made all the worse by the fact that I know he is desparate for children too as he is recently divorced and hasn't had that opportunity.
Is is co-indicence that I am becoming interested in him now?
And what do I do about my desperate feelings of needing/wanting to have a baby??
2006-11-09 08:09:04 · 18 answers · asked by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I've probably set myself up for loads of jokes here, but I would like ssome good advice if anyone has any please.
2006-11-09 08:12:48 · update #1
Thank you all for giving me serious answers, I appreciate your advice. :)
2006-11-09 08:23:38 · update #2
go out with your friend, see if there is any chemistry there.
and the baby thing, you just have to wait darlin, i desperatly want a baby too.
see how you get on with your friend.
i hope you find what you are looking for
xXx
2006-11-09 08:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor. I know clocks tick cause mine screams too. And I'm married and established. I waiting because my husband and I need more together time before jumping into kids. My needs were stronger when I was younger because I had abandonment issues and was very unhappy. Having a child of my own would mean I was never lonely. Not the best reason for having children. You should reall y decipher the meaning of your desperation and then have children when you line up all of your ducks.
2006-11-09 16:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be realistic here. Put aside that desire to have a baby. It is not ideal to have one alone, and if you rush into a relationship with this guy you may end up that way. Make sure that you truly have feelings for him. Then start a relationship and make sure you two are compatible. You already know that some of your desires are the same, that should help. Then if you two are compatible, get married and pro-create!
2006-11-09 16:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mocha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't interested in him in the first place then I doubt whether you are now, I think you may be just kidding yourself because of your desire to have a baby. Why not join a club or take up a hobby where you can meet people with the same interests as you. When that someone special comes along ( and they will) everything will fit into placeand you will have that baby you so desire. I wish you luck.
2006-11-09 16:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by patsy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I feel that if you get with this guy it would be purely out of convenience due to the both of you desperately longing for children, remember you are still young and there's a real possibility you will meet someone in the future who you will truly want to settle down with and have a family, good luck to you and keep smiling.
2006-11-09 16:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, the baby thing. it is something called Maternal Instinct. most women like you (career minded) seem to get this in their 30's and the urge to reproduce gets real stronger near 35.
The fact that you are surrounded by pregnant friends increases this desire for you to have a child.
The guy is maybe a nice guy or maybe not. why did he get divorced? how does he feel about things that are important to you? research this if you want to marry him. If you just want him as a sperm donor then go for it. lie to him and say you just found out you were pregnant before you go on your date and hope he hits a home run that night. that way he won't suspect it is his and he won't go to court for visitation rights.
2006-11-09 16:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into a relationship with a guy just because he's as desperate for children as you are. You're still young so have plenty of time to find the right guy and have a baby. You'll be glad you waited, just enjoy yourself for now!
2006-11-09 16:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by doodlenatty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to step back a moment... WHY ARE YOU WANTING A BABY??? Just because your co-workers have had theirs or because you are desperate before your biological clock is ticking???
Are you able to provide for the baby/child/toddler all the way to adulthood??? You realise what a huge committment it is??? You are aware of the responsibilities??? You are prepared for the disruption this little life will bring to your order???
I wasn't fully prepared for when my son was born and the affect he would have... I rallied and we coped, but only just...
If you want to talk me, let me know... ;)
2006-11-09 16:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say your feelings towards him are more for the fact your so desperate to have a baby.but if you think you like him go 4it nothing ventured nothing gained.ok controversial bt could you maybe come to an arrangement??you sound settled+financially secure.and parents dont have to live with one another to be good parents and raise a happy child.good luck anyway xx
2006-11-09 16:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for the whole 2.4 kids bit with the hubby as well. If not and you can afford to have a child on your own then why not do it that way.
2006-11-09 16:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋