we hanged out and have sex for several times but when I asked him, "do you love me?" . He asked me "uhm, what kind of love?, can you define the word love? " this guy just want to have sex with me or want me as his gf.
2006-11-09 08:08:31 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say this, but it would have saved you some trouble if you asked that question to him BEFORE having sex!
It appears BOTH of you got caught up in the moment!
2006-11-09 08:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He's not attached to you. It's good that he's honest. Love and sex are two different things. They both can go together, but it is separate. We often mistaken lust for love. Your relationship is based on lust. Nothing is wrong with that, just that it's what it is. He may never love you, but like being intimate with you and like your companionship. It may never amount to more, or give it time and it could. If you really want a guy to love you before having sex, take the time to build the relationship first. It depends on time and it depends on the guy.
2006-11-09 08:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it doesn't sound like he LOVES you (yet), but that doesn't mean he just wants you for sex. He may be genuinely attracted and interested in you, he's just not in love. Give it time. And by the way, it's best not to bring the "love" subject up at all unless he brings it up first or you two have been together for a while and hung out more than "several times." It can kind of scare a person, since 'love' is such a strong word. Good luck.
2006-11-09 08:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I can't believe you needed to ask, but since you have, let me enlighten you. You are not even close to love. Love is not found in such a relationship. It's like barking up the wrong tree. It's like demanding water from a fountain that is dry. It's like expecting blood to flow from a turnip. It's like wishing for an orange and handed a prune. Yes, believe it or not, love has not crossed your acquaintances mind.
2006-11-09 08:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer is from a man!! If you have to ask a man if he loves you, especially after having sex, as you put it several times, than the answer is HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!! Just the Booty!!!
2006-11-09 08:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's after the sex. He might really like you, but probably doesn't love you. This doesn't mean he ONLY wants sex, he very well could be interested in you. Just because you have sex doesn't mean he is going to automatically fall in love with you...
2006-11-09 08:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys don't asociate love with sex the way women do. A guy is more likey to love from wanting the sex he has not got.
2006-11-09 08:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt love you as much as you love him honey, sorry. Cause if he really did then he would have said "yes". Im pretty sure that he wants you to be with him but all he wants out of you guys relationship is sex.
2006-11-09 08:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by off_switch33 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I think part of the reason to date is to determine whether this is someone you could actually love, in this case I would say his main interest is just to have sex with you.
2006-11-09 08:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think yourself lucky you are young enough and put out enough that he is interested in at least using you ...as you have such a poor command of English I would think converstation is limited. Keep it interesting, loads of O and A and introduce a friend... you have a limited shelf life so have fun xx
2006-11-09 08:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋