Mother is 68 years old divorced, and has had cancer breast cancer, which spread to stomach area for 10 years. She has been on Chemotherapy. I took her, my girlfriend and her mother to a restaurant. We were talking and I quoted something a professor had said in college, my mother said " YOUR MARKS WERE NO GOOD" No one said anything. The next day I asked why she said that, and she denied saying it, and yelled at me. Can her saying such a strange thing be caused by cancer, or Chemo? Also she does not know what my marks were.
2006-11-09 08:02:38 · 11 answers · asked by DALIAN 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
If this is a new behaviour, I would say she's being affected by the disease, its treatment and the stress of it all.
2006-11-09 08:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was just on chemo for 6 months last year. Yes the drugs made her very moody. The Prednisone really had her out of wack. Don't let her get to you. Dang she's your mom and fighting cancer. I'm not sure why you mentioned she's divorced. Nope that's not the reason. It's the drugs. Try and be more tolerant of her. Tell her you love her everyday. It helped with my mom. They gave her a 20% chance of survival. She's been in total remission now for 9 months. My mom did this in a restaurant. The table next to us was speaking some foreign language. She looks at them and gives an evil face. She says, englissssssh onllllllyyy. LOL. Oh man how embarrassing is that? What's worse is we were in a Thai restaurant. Of course there's people there who don't speak english. So the moral to the story is. She's your mom and she's sick.
Just hang in there the best you can.
2006-11-09 16:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law is currently undergoing chemotherapy too. I have noticed that lately she is more than just stressed out. She really gets upset about things and she admits that it's out of her control. Like one little comment about something can send her into tears. Or she'll be doing the dishes and think about something and it will make her cry. Her son got into an argument with her, and after the argument, she was so upset, she was shaking. My mother-in-law has always been a strong person. The chemicals from chemotherapy affect your brain as well as other parts of your body. During this time, let the mean comments your mother may say just slide, because she probably isn't being mean on purpose. Right now she just needs everybody around her to be understanding.
2006-11-09 16:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure it is the chemo causing this behavior. Could be early dementia or I would of course be concerned about brain metastasis. Breast cancer spreads to the brain pretty frequently in the later stages. She obviously has stage 4 breast cancer if it is in her abdomen so it is completely possible for it to be in the brain too. I would give a call to her oncologist's office and share your concerns. She may need a CT of the brain to check this out.
2006-11-09 18:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, it could be caused by chemo reactions, hormones, stress from worry, not feeling well, a variety of causes. I would watch her and see if you can't get her in for a check up to be sure there isn't anything spreading to the brain or lungs. Either can affect memory because the lungs might not be taking in enough oxygen.
2006-11-10 01:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother died of cancer about 11 years ago. Before the cancer was even discovered, we noticed a distinct personality change in her. We thought she was just getting nastier with age, since she wasn't ever the nicest person.
When they discovered her lung cancer, it had already spread to her brain. That explained the changes we were seeing. In spite of the fact that she was dying, and she knew it, she just couldn't help herself and seemed to look for hurtful things to say when we all visited her. Just pray for her and try to validate yourself.
2006-11-09 16:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to ask her docotr about whether cancer or chemo causes behavior like that. But stress causes behavior like that. it could just be the stress taht she's going through.
2006-11-09 16:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing with my mother as of 2 weeks ago. I think it is just stress. If she was never like this before then that would be my guess. Just think.... Dying is not something someone is happy about.
2006-11-09 16:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by HelpmeIneedit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at some point in all parent child relationships the tide turns and the kid has to be the adult. you passed it a while ago i think. so now mom gets to tantrum. don't take it anymore seriously than you would a 6 yr old. shes still your mom so don't hate her. just learn to forgive a whole lot.
2006-11-09 16:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be the cancer, the chemo, or unrelated dementia.
2006-11-09 16:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋