My husband wants to adopt my two boys How do we get the sperm donor to give up his birth rights?

Answer 1

I am adopted but I do not know either of my biological parents. But...that is not what you are asking. My questions are as follows:
1.) Is your ex current with his child support?
2.) Does your ex currently have visitation rights?
3.) Is your ex paying "enough" in child support?
4.) Objectively is your ex a bad father to his children?

If your ex is late with child support call him up and tell him you are going to call child support recovery and get your children's money from him. If he has never paid chances are he will be more than happy to sign away his rights to avoid having to pay. If he is up to date and current let's look at the next step.

If your ex currently has visitation rights I would ask your boys how that is going. If he mistreats your sons have the authorities get involved. If he doesn't...not much you can do there and that leads us to the next step.

You can always take your ex back to court to review their child support payments. If your ex is more concerned about money than his children he will gladly sign away his rights in most cases. If money is not an issue and if he is current then the last step would be the following:

Hire a PI and find out what he does with and without the children. Get some dirt on him. If there is no dirt to be gotten and if he is good to your boys then maybe just ask him, for the sake of his children, to allow your husband to adopt the boys.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Do not do it! Look, here is what my attorney told me and it turned out to be great advice. In the beginnng of my new marriage I wanted to get the sperm donor to sign over rights and do the adoption thing, but my attorney was like here is the deal....If you do this, then something happens and you divorce this guy you have to give him visitation rights and do the whole child support thing again do you really want to go down that road? If you do not want or need the money from the sperm donor and he is willing to give up his rights, then do it, but do not let anyone else adopt them, because life is a lot easier if you are the only parent involved. Most sperm donors will give up thier rights for the money.

Answer 3

My best friend just went through this ordeal. It is never an easy process so you need to be positive this is what is best for your family. First you should speak to the "sperm donor", if possible, and state what it is you want and why. If he owes child support offer to write it off if he gives up his rights. In our state if the father hasn't seen the child in two years and has paid no child support in two years they basically have given up their rights. Talk to an attorney or family court if the donor refuses to sign off they will give you the options available to you. If you end up going to court stay factual instead of bashing the donor as it will not look good on your part. If the judge sides w/ your family you can usually expect a home visit from the state. Stay positive and know that there is a way to have his rights terminated if he doesn't use them.

Answer 4

If the "sperm donor" has failed to show just cause as to why he would even want to give up his rights... ex: doesn't pay support, doesn't come see them for visitation, if he is abusing them, then you can get him for it that way other then that, it is hard to have a father just "give" up his birth rights. There must be without a reasonable doubt as to why you feel this father should not be your children's father. I am not an attorney, but i have seen a lot of this in my family. My cousin was a horrible father, he did all of this. and all what it would of taken was one. but i also have to share this. He just passed away, (my cousin) he loved his children but he was not a good influence for them, so he died without ever telling his children he loved them. he wasn't given that opportunity. so before you take away his rights make sure that is in best interest for your children. May God be with you in your choices!

Answer 5

I have been the child that was adopted by my stepfather. It's an emotional roller coaster for the Mother but how will your sons feel in the future. If you aren't getting along with their father it's probably; but adoption does not make a man a father neither does his sperm but the love that he shows your son.

Boys learn from the man figure that's in their life, ink and paper has nothing to do with that. I had my stepfather last name but it didn't make him a good father.

If your husband loves you and your sons, it's not really going to matter whether they have his name. Remember that this is a matter that you want to do own behalf of your sons and I wouldn't them not to have the chance to know their father.

Don't use your feeling to justify what you want to do. For medical reasons they make need to keep in touch with some of their father family. It is not a yes or no answer. You didn't say whether the father's parent or sibbling want to have anything to do with your sons.

My father had other children and I know them because that relationship left open me. I hope this help a little.

Answer 6

A sperm donor has no birth rights. They sign away the rights when they donate.

Answer 7

I think sperm donors give up their birth rights at the time of donating.

Answer 8

Well, I do not know about your state, but here in Texas after 6 months of no contact you can terminate his rights. My husband and I are doing it this way. You should know that child suppport is considered contact. I had a case with the Attorney General and I called and told them I wanted my case closed. On December the 8th, it will have been 6 months since I recieved a payment so we can begin the process then. You should contanct a family law attorney to find out the exact laws in your state! Good luck to all!

Answer 9

OK first
does the sperm donor pay child support?
does he have any visitation with the children?
if no...how long has it been ?
if he has had no contact with the children for at least 1year(some states it's 2 years) you must do a posting in the newspaper or send him papers asking for permission for your husband to adopt the children.
would be best to check with a law council in your area.

some times it is easier just to do a legal name change. don't have to have his permission for that I don't think

Answer 10

Is it actually a sperm donor or is it an ex? You have to be more specific! If its your ex you have to go see an attourney, and if its asperm donor, they dont have birth right unless you signed papers sayin ghtat he could.