well first let me say this i'm a freshmen in college and i'm 18 me and my boyfriend have been toogether for a year but he's still only a junior in high school and there is a lot of love in our relationship but we agrue everyday about the same things he says that hes always changing for me and i never do the same. but recently us aruging has gotta so bad that we decided to take a break for a week this means that we bascially don't talk and see each other. but during the past 2 weeks i've meet someone at school that i really like (I live on campus so i only see my boyfrend on the weekends) and we've been talkin alot lately and i like him a lot and he likes me too. Now im not really sure what i want. should i stay with my boyfriend since we've been together for a year and its a little more solid. or should i try something knew with this boy that i really like and have a connection and what do i tell me boyfriend i'm so lost and confused i don't know what to do can somebody HELP ME?
2006-11-09 07:50:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you really need to take a look at your relationship and see where it is going. Is this a guy that you think that you might want a future with? Can you picture yourself with him for 4 more months, for another year? What about after college? College changes people, and that is something he hasn't experianced yet. By just being in college, you have been thrown on an express way to maturity while he is still left behind in regulated high school life.
Evaluate your feelings for this other guy. Where do you see them going? Is this a fantasy of yours or can you really see yourself with him?
Breaking up with a bf is not the end of the world. If you don't think things will work out with him, than there is nothing wrong with moving on. People usually do not meet who their will marry or be with for a long time until later in life, so you don't think that by breaking up with your bf, you will be an old maid. If you guys are on a break, then take advantage of your break and see what else is out there. Maybe it will help you appreciate each other more or maybe you can find something else out there for you.
Best of luck!
2006-11-09 07:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing, chickie -- there's only one good reason to be with someone. Because you want to. Because you love him enough to commit, and he feels the same about you. Because you are something better together than apart, happier together than apart.
Read back over your question. Is your heart still in this relationship? If your heart isn't in it any more, then he deserves to know that, so he can find someone who does want to be with him. You deserve to be with someone you can commit to fully. '
If that's him - then you keep other guys at a friendly arm's distance and work on your relationship with your BF. If it's not him, then you tell him, kindly, soon (turn it around - if his heart wasn't in it any more, would you feel any better if you found out that he didn't tell you for months because he didn't want to hurt you?).
If you do decide to end it, be as brief, kind, and non-judgemental as you can. Understand that he probably will be unhappy to hear what you have to say, but he can survive it, and so can you. Good luck!
2006-11-09 08:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well staying with someone just because you have been together for a year is not good choice. The real thing you need to figure out is why are you two fighting, and if you both sit and discuss these things if its worth working out. Or if your lives are moving in different directions and its time to move on. Only a discussion with your current boyfriend will tell you the answer. If he is unwilling to have the discussion then move on.
2006-11-09 07:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by imrtl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fighting and your guy hasn't left yet... you're a lucky girl. Also, do you know how much trust it must take from him for you to be off at college?doing god knows what or god knows who. Maybe that's why you're fighting. It has got to be hard for him. And you're ready to give up a years worth of time that he has dedicated to you over a guy you've known for two weeks? Also, fighting, as horrible as it is, can make a relationship stronger. It really can. But if you're that damn flaky... you don't deserve a guy that good to you in the first place.
2006-11-09 08:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by scoutredneckfluffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking of yourself those questions and pondering why possibly your now not doing the proper factor. Relationships are problematic every now and then. The reality that he is long past and works alot, lives out of state that needs to be very difficult on you. I fully grasp he is helping you out with fiscal disorders however it's all valued at it???? Weight out your professionals/cons and cross with what your center feels. Being on my own sucks!!! Sit your man down and inform him from the center how your feeling, possibly after your speak you'll be able to transfer in and matters good begin going within the proper instructional materials. You deserve most effective the first-class, Good Luck.
2016-09-01 09:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by marentes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, see how it goes after this break with your current bf.. if everything is good again, stay, but if you see each other again and instantly begin arguing, try the new guy.. Let your bf down easily though, explain that it's not working out and that you don't know where the relationship is going
2006-11-09 07:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Tell you boyfriend you have grown appart since you have started college. If you like someone else then you need to break it off with him. A one year relationship is not worth holding on to if you fight all the time. Good luck!
2006-11-09 07:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguing almost everyday is normal specially when u guys have been together for awhile because you guys are getting used to each other. do u love your boyfriend? trust ur instinct! but hey i always go with that saying that never leave the person you love for someone you like because the one you like will leave you for the person they love. give urself a break and time to think what you really want.
2006-11-09 07:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by mizxhayrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, don't stay and waste time with someone your unsure of. Also there is a decent age difference right there. Fighting most likely won't stop just because of a break... and you never know he might be finding someone too. I would give this new guy a chance.
2006-11-09 07:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can tell you what to do, but it sounds like maybe your relationship with you boyfriend in high school is not working, and you only get to see him on weekends. From the information you've presented, I'd reccommend that you move on.
2006-11-09 07:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋