My friend and I were talking today about a mutual friend that I've been dating for two months. Though he and I are busy people, we do make time to talk to each other. Well, at least I do. Now I'm not so sure about him.
I told this mutual friend that I asked the guy I'm dating what he wants from me. A relationship or just sex? (And no, we haven't slept together!) At first he didn't want to answer the question. Then he said that he should be asking me that question. (What does that mean?) Finally, he answered it by saying that he doesn't put expectations on anything and just goes with the flow.
I also told this mutual friend that on our first date, I think that I might have sent the wrong message because towards the end of our date, he asked if we were going to see each other again. I said, "Maybe". (I'll admit that I was afraid to put myself out there and be rejected.)
2006-11-09 07:45:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Our mutual friend said that was a big mistake and I am going to have to put in a lot of work to convince this guy that I'm really interested.
So my question is: Was it really that big a deal that I said "maybe"? And should I have to put in work? Isn't it enough that I went out on a second date with him? Shouldn't he know that I am interested?
2006-11-09 07:46:46 · update #1
He should know you are interested...but perhaps he thinks the "maybe" means you want to play games and he's not interested in doing that?? YOu may have also made him so frightened of being rejected, that he's not going to risk it again!
2006-11-09 07:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a big deal....honestly if you are still seeing him you are ok then if you are still talking to him on the phone then things are ok start to worry when you cant find him and he does not call you or return your calls but if things are still cool with you then things are alright
2006-11-09 07:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by melanni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a maybe ruins everything tell him it straight...before you loose the best thing u have or could have had.... do u want to live with that
2006-11-09 07:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by skyfallingchickenlittle37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this is too much effort on your part
move on
u are not ready for this relationship
2006-11-09 07:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on ma'.... theres millions of guys out there... who would want more from you...
2006-11-09 07:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on..
2006-11-09 07:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by a a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋