2006-11-09 07:31:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is possible if the two of you mutually agreed that things just werent working out, maybe because there wasnt any chemistry. Other than that I dont think it is possible.
2006-11-09 07:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by jamie23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely possible...ex boyfriend or ex spouse. Personally I have always succeeded in maintaining friendships with ex's simply because you never know when they could pop back into your life...say for instance as a boyfriend or husband of someone you socialize with. I have even had ex's (boyfriends that is) defend my "honor" by demanding others not speak of me in any terms other than good ones. That I found quite impressive. My husband and I are actually Godparents for a child of one of my ex boyfriends and his wife and we were also a part of their wedding party.
My sister in law has maintained a friendship status with her ex husband after a very difficult period in which he had an affair, she found out and it was chaos for some time but today they have determined that they were really never meant to be married because they are getting along far better now than when they were.
It takes a reciprocal maturity to be able to do this however and if both parties are willing...the opportunity to create a quality friendship that may otherwise have been missed...is there.
2006-11-09 15:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on whether you were "friends" to begin with. Most people get involved romantically with someone before they really even find out if they "like" them as a human being. Also, I think it depends on how the relationship ended. Often times it's hard to establish a working, friendly relationship after a break-up, if the reason you broke up was a trust issue. Also, I think time plays a part here. My former husband and I split up years ago, it was a very unpleasant break-up at the time, but now many years later, although I wouldn't go so far as to say we are "best buds" we are friendly/respectful and cordial to one another. So...it all depends...on the individuals involved, the situation, etc.
2006-11-09 15:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by livtru_always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough. It would probably have to wait at least a few months (depending on how long you were dating for) before you should try being friends. I was friends with my ex and she just wanted to get back together with me despite me telling her it would never happen. When I started seeing someone else, she stopped calling me as she finally realized that it was over. I saw her once after that, but we didn't really talk. I felt sorry for her so I let her make the decision on her own if she still wanted to be friends or not.
In short, make sure there are no left over feelings from the relationship first.
2006-11-09 15:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible if the relationship didn't end bad. I think that there has to be a good transition give each other time away from each other with no contact. Also in order to be friends you both have to understand that their is privileges and things that happened as a couple will not happen as friends. With all of that being said yes it can be possible.
2006-11-09 15:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible right away.... It takes time to get over the other person, time to forgive and time to heal. If it was a relationship that meant something, it will be hard. Most people can't remain friends because they went through so much together, you can't just forget what you've put eachother through, put it aside and say "lets be friends." One person always ends up still harbouring feelings or wishing that they can "get back." Personally I couldn't.
2006-11-09 15:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by olivia_siharaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people and the breakup. I went out with my ex for 2 years and we broke up 3 or 4 years ago. We've been friends ever since. The breakup was mutual, we didn't have anything in common anymore. :)
2006-11-09 15:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Aaralyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm friends with my ex, but we're both remarried. I think it's pretty rare. We also stayed away from each other for 2 years to get our lives on track before we started talking. Now we vacation at each other's houses.
2006-11-09 15:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stay friends with a ex. I believe it to be a true statement. I am friends with my ex but it didnt happen instantly it came with time. We are better friends that we were a couple. We are both mature enough to realize it.
2006-11-09 15:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible, but it would depend upon the situation and reason for the break up and how strong your freidnship was before and during the relationship. It takes work like any other relationship but it is possible.
2006-11-09 15:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋