My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and lately... i don't want him to touch me. i mean when he kisses me too long or even tries to touch me in a sexual way, i most often turn away. i know that he's picked up on my lack of interest. what can i say to him without hurting his feelings?
**serious answers only, please**
2006-11-09 06:54:49 · 14 answers · asked by iPROMISE[♥] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the best thing to do is break up with him. Sooner or later the relationship is gonna turn sour and you're gonna end up arguing or he's gonna end up cheating on you because you're not being intimate with him. The bigger question for you would be would you be intimate with anyone else? Is this a I just don't like to kiss or have sex with anybody thing or a I just don't want to kiss and have sex with my b/f phase?
2006-11-09 06:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there is an easy diplomatic answer to this. Moreover, I would not attempt an elaborate excuse or explanation for how you feel. Be honest with him and tell him, "Sorry, I've lost interest in you. I want to see other people". That should be enough. He should know that one of the risks of dating someone is that they may eventually lose interest in him. He may be hurt for a bit, but he WILL get over you and the hurt. Do not think so much of yourself that he will be forever crushed if you leave him.
2006-11-09 15:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Gin Martini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after a year do you start this behavior? Did you all of a sudden have some sort of crisis? My suggestion would be to offer to keep it an open relationship, you can still date but also other people. If it's meant to be you'll miss each other enough to want each other back...simple as that.
2006-11-09 14:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you guys need to try something exciting!! Buy some toys or do something that needs teamwork. Or dump him if he resist. The truth sometimes hurts...but at least you can stop tip toeing around him hoping he don't touch you. Oh what the he!! move on and you will easily find another fling.
2006-11-09 15:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you need to just tell him what you just asked us, i've lost intrest.....maybe we should just be friends, and if you would like to stay with him, then what made you hot before, maybe try new things, and if its just a no its never going to happen again, then that is it, just say you don't get me hot, i'm sorry, i would like to just move on, and you are going to get there is someone else isn't there i can tell you right now you are, so be prepared and hun tell him the truth
2006-11-09 15:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by dom_parnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. There is nothing that you are going to say that won't hurt his feelings. Just tell him that it is no longer working for you and get out.
2006-11-09 14:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've realized that the relationship isn't working and break off with him. He deserves a woman who loves and desires him. If that's not you, let him go.
2006-11-09 14:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, thats harsh.
Break up with him, tell him you have fallen out of love with him,
Thats the right thing to do, you cant stay beause your scared to hurt his feelings..
Good Luck!
2006-11-09 14:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest about the way you feel. who knows, he may understand and then you can spice back up your relationship. i think every relationship goes through that if it becomes to routine.
SEDUCE YOUR MAN!!! good luck.
2006-11-09 15:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two really need to sit down and talk and see where your relationship is heading, maybe its time to evaluate and maybe break it off if there is no love/attraction between you two, or maybe you guys can rekindle that lost attraction.
2006-11-09 14:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋