im 35 and a housewife very lonely what should i do?

Question

lonely no respect from kids or husband went threw depressin and feel going back

Answer 1

Read a book.

Answer 2

Starting college studying what? There are majors that earn money and there are majors that waste time. If you're going to be studying anything engineering or science related, then enjoy your downtime while you can. You won't get much of it in school. Consider getting a part-time job you can do from home so you won't need a car. Sometimes sales organizations need people to make Cold Calls (coz nobody likes doing that) and it would be nice if the telemarketers could actually speak English for a change. You can make some extra money, interact with people, and not need to worry about making hubby jealous. You should go ahead and ask hubby about that part-time job. After all, he should trust you to rebuff potential suitors, since a clothing store is only one of a million places where men are going to be talking to you. Never-mind the men, we're all dogs anyway, but he needs to be able to trust YOU. If he can't trust you, then you two have got some very serious discussions to have. And another thing, you say you don't know anybody on the base -- well who's fault is that? Go next door and introduce yourself! Military families tend to be very friendly and close, because you all have the same kinds of things in common, that is to say, a family member who's putting his life on the line for our country. I'll wager it shouldn't be too hard to find another wife in exactly your same situation, and you'll have plenty to talk about!

Answer 3

I feel your pain!
Talk to your family. Let them know exactly how you feel. Give it a little time to change. If your children continue to disrespect you, and your husband gives you no attention, then leave! You are far to "worth it" to sit around and feel like you are wasting away! Get up , and get to a fitness club! Make it your time. Work out to boost metabolism , and creates endorphines. Use the hot tub or the sauna to relax. Atleast take a walk. Start a project or volunteer somewhere. Maybe start going to a church with a womens group, if you arent already. Get a part- time job, or take a class or two at a local community college. That will get you out around others who may be going through similar situations. It will also give you self confidence, and some experience in case you decide to leave. Do all that you can to make it work, but if they dont pull their weight, then get a divorce. Atleast you will know you did your best. Your sanity is worth the world! Dont let anyone, even kids, take that from you. You can still be a wonderful mother even if you and the father arent together. Good luck! You are worth it!
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Answer 4

I know how that is . I have been in the same boat you have. I moved to another state with my hubby and children and didnt know anyone. I went a long time in the house and didnt do anything . I got very depressed and lonely . I got advice to join yahoo groups. They have helped so much . I am in 2 moms group for my nieghborhood that do many moms night out. Also I am looking into craft clesses through Michaels and other places. I do love to read so I go to the Library just to get out. I do know its hard to meet people when you are grown and not in school anymore . Thank God for Yahoo Groups

Answer 5

There are many things you can do. Find a part-time job, join a parents group, or play group for your kids, take a class at a local college.

If all else fails, talk to your doctor, depression is a medical condition that can be treated with therapy and medication.

As for the no respect part, lay down the law at home and your family will eventually respect you for it.

Answer 6

Do what ever it takes to avoid falling back into depression. I think you should take some classes at a community college near home. Get into something you enjoy, there's so much to choose from. You could go at night, or in the daytime, which ever is convienent. You'll feel so much better doing something for YOU.
If not, go to Bingo! Good luck!

Answer 7

when that happened to me i was in depression so bad i let my son draw on the refrigerator with a sharpie marker and a whole bunch a horrible things.. when i finally decided i didnt want my life to be this way i found a friend who would take us in, got our lives together and now im married to my friend, the most wonderful man in the world, i wish everyone had the love we have for each other, i couldnt ask for a better life ...ever...stay positive, try going out with a girlfriend/s, dont get hooked to the internet, and maybe try to talk to them (kids and hubby) and tell them how you feel or just tell them i get the respect or you can do everything yourself! can they cook there own dinner, wash there own clothes...etc!?!?!?

Answer 8

Maybe some counseling for you and your husband might help. If things are awful talk to a good friend, find something you like to do that will make you happy. You need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in relationships. Take care

Answer 9

Go see your GP first, then see if there are any mom groups eveb classes at your YMCA with you and you kids, you just need to get out as a person again. I until recently have not been out (with friends) for 3 years and just started having girls night out on Saturday night it is a big stress reliver.

Answer 10

If your kids are gone to school try getting a part time job to get out of the house a few hours a day. GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

i feel the same girl.. and i am only 23 and have 3 kids so yeh my life is pretty borning.. i just got my hair done and my nails and got a baby sitter for my kids 2 days a week so i can go do something