I am also married, I know this its not right, so pls NO judgeamental remarks. Not completly surprizing, I just found out and she finally confirmed it, I was not her first affair as she had said. I am more hurt by the deception than by the deed. Any way, I definetly want to take the opportunity to finish the relationship, my questions is wether you think its possible to remain friends under this circumstances?
2006-11-09 06:51:15 · 15 answers · asked by Joe V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, for a guy so worry about child molestation you are really a judgejamental A/H.
2006-11-09 07:22:36 · update #1
Of course you can who said that you couldn't? I know it had to be rough in finding out that way but you cannot blame yourself on this issue, you found out and now you can move on that simple...but wait are you still in love with her? that is something that you have to give yourself time to think about and also since you are married this would be a perfect opportunity to spend time with your family and to also think about what to do about it really...Understand something for just a second (and I am not judging you it is not my place) You felt decieved, well lets look at it another way your wife is being decieved don't you think? It doesn't feel good but now you know what it feels like....Under the circumstances you can still be friends with her but you have to let it go now...for you and whatever else you plan to do later on down the road.
2006-11-09 07:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You should be awarded genius of the hour. Not only do you know you’re a moron, you specifically pointed out you need no reminders of that fact. I bet it took you’re entire brain cell to think it up. Did it? Probably so. Ok you horny cheating adulterer, here’s the thing. For the sake of humanity, don’t reproduce! The last thing society needs is more man whores running around destroying marriages. Tell me, do you drool on yourself? Were you in any “special” classes?
You’re thinking about remaining friends? What are you dumb and stupid? You’re a walking double negative! Hey, I have an idea, why don’t you focus on your wife for a change and work on that relationship. People get married for a reason. If you think there’s a possibility you’re going to cheat, you shouldn’t get married. I really hope there aren’t any kids in this situation. You are a serious jerk.
2006-11-09 07:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how deep the relationship was, you said you were hurt by the deception of her deeds so I guess it depends on if you will be able to get over that. Seems like this was more then just a booty call if your breaking it off because she was/is having another affair! shouldnt matter. Guess what Im saying is it sounds deeper then just an affair (sounds like feelings are involved) so friends may not work out for you.
Maybe it will give you a chance to revaluate your marriage and see if you can work on that, that should be a bigger concern the the extra marital affair.
2006-11-09 07:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by michele_zanella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would forget about trying to be her friend and make amends with my wife. It seems like you two have some problems that need to be sorted out. If you didn't, you wouldn't have stepped out on her and had an affair. I think you're only hitting the surface with this question. You should take some time to gather your thoughts and consider what your actions have done to you and your marriage. Hope this helps and you can ALWAYS go to God, He can heal the brokenhearted. God bless.
2006-11-09 06:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think is possible for you to remain friends. Friend implies someone that you are close too. If the shoe was on the other foot, would you like for your wife to remain friends with her lover. If you really want to end it, just let it go. I am in a similiar situatuation, but were not ready to end it yet. When we do, we will have to go our seperate ways, be polite when you see each other, but don't make an effort to stay in touch.
2006-11-09 06:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by firelady 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to end all contact. At least you would be able to have some dignity and self-respect after committing adultery.
Besides, it's hard to be just friends with someone after having a physical relationship. Trust me. You will save yourself a lot of stress by moving on and hopefully making up for your mistake.
2006-11-09 06:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not for a year or more after you end the affair. You will need some time to come to terms with the emotions and memories.
2006-11-09 06:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should just end it and try to focus on making your marriage work! You obviously have feelings for this woman if you have been with her for 3 years! If you try to maintain a friendship with her, it could possibly lead to more later. Once you get over your hurt feelings, you will want to forgive her, and then, before you know it you will be right back in a relationship with her.
If you want it to be over, make it over. Cut all ties and move on with your life! Good luck to you!
2006-11-09 06:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've really heard it all now! One can't help being judgmental about an idiot like you. You're hurt by the deception!? And what is it you two have been doing all this time?
Get a life!
2006-11-09 06:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want be friends with this woman? I think if your wife would ever find out that you had an affair and you remained friends with her she will be destroyed. good luck!
2006-11-09 06:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by ME 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋