Touchy-feely...?

Question

I realize that a lot of guys aren't touchy feely, unless you are alone with a girl. I get that.

A guy was talking to me recently about how he isn't touchy feely unless he is comforting someone. I said "That's cool, I'll have to watch out for that just in case..but I did sit close to you the other night just for the picture.." he said "You also touched my head softly and rubbed my leg." I said "Oh...sorry. I meant nothing by it" he said "No worries..."

I'm guessing he even noticed I touched him because it made him uncomfortable. Which, is something, as I said, I will watch out for. But he has a crush on me, which is something we have had long discussions about.

So, did he notice it because a few people were around? because when we are alone, he lets me curl up next to him & everything..

Answer 1

Maybe he's just kinda shy in that catagory when he's in public. If you alone with him and he doesn't stop you....he likes it. Affection is the way we show we care about someone. I'd say if you like him....keep on a touch'n. Never knew a guy that didn't like a girls touch....unless he was gay.

Answer 2

I would guess he would have noticed it regardless if there were a few people around, nobody around, or a lot of people around. Including myself, some people are extremely aware when people touch them. It is not a good or bad thing, but it is something very noticeable to us. Often, as soon as I am touched I become very aware of it.

I am not touchy-feely either. I very rarely will touch another person with whom I don't know very well, and even then, they often will have to be a girlfriend before I will touch them. That said, I do feel very comfortable with touching a girlfriend, whether alone or in public.

Answer 3

Ok, my wife is so not touchy feely in public. Not too much in private either. She has had to explain that to me because I was thinking she didn't like me. She actually said that just being in the same room meant something to her. Now I know.

He is just different and doesn't feel comfortable doing that. No problems especially since he was able to tell you.

Take Care.

Answer 4

if he has a cush on you then he's probably wondering if you were being touchy feely in front of people because you like him.

Answer 5

in basic terms with a girl buddy. I hate whilst random people touch me. the people i comprehend who're the main delicate are truthfully Leo and Aries even nevertheless they are my buddies. They comprehend to not touch me anymore lol. Taurus sunlight Leo Moon Taurus transforming into Venus Gemini Mars maximum cancers

Answer 6

I like touchy-feely....you mean with my hands, right?

Answer 7

Maybe you are just outside of his comfort zone still. With time, trust builds up, and we feel more comfortable around those we know and trust.

Let him know HOW THINGS ARE FOR YOU! Ask him what makes him feel the best about himself. Build him up, and you have something and someone you can count on...

Answer 8

Some folks just don't like having their personal space invaded and so really are uncomfortable with people who are more open to expressing themselves by touching the other person. He may have just been politely informing you that you have entered into his space and to please watch it as he feels vulnerable.

Answer 9

I think he was showing you that hes comfortable with you doing something no one else can. I'd take it as a compliment.

Answer 10

If you want to know, ask him...there's no way we can know, because we don't know him.

Just make sure if he doesn't like touching, and you do, that you can comfortably adapt to that...things like that can be deal-breakers.