What approach would a child Psychologist take in talking to a 3 year old that has been molested?

Question

I also posted this in the toddler section but I want more advice, maybe from parents that have been through a similar experience. My 3 year old son was touched by his cousin (9yrs old). I found this out after my son started having "accidents" in his pants. I was immediatley alarmed that was something was going on with him. I spoke with him and he did tell me that she touched his "hiney" and put her hand inside. I tried not asking too many questions but couldn't help myself as I was destroyed by this news. Him and another little boy was found playing with them both having their pants pulled down. This was my sons doing. He also has been seen playing with dolls in the "hiney" area. He no longer talks to me about this and when he is asked about it he yells at me "that nothing happened". I fear that he is acting out on what was done to him with other kids. I am taking him to see a psychologist about this and was wondering if anyone has been in this situation and what the outcome

was in the growing up years? Will he stop acting out with other kids on this? I have went to the mother but she did not believe that this happened to my son. Needless to say, I no longer talk to my sister and do not allow my kids around her kids. I stay away from family during the holidays due to this.

Answer 1

Most likely, since you already said he's been playing with dolls in that fashion, the psychologist will do play therapy. Your son will be asked to play with the dolls, and he will act out what has happened. This is a very common way to know what goes on in the lives of children. My advice is to not ask him what happened any more (at least until you speak with the psychologist). He is sensing that it was wrong, so he doesn't want to admit that it happened. Let him know that you love him and he didn't do anything wrong. Good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are in a really hard spot to be in! I am very sorry that you are going through this. I think that you do need to get alto of help so deal with these issues, I would also see about talking to the state to get them involved with the cousin he had to learn that behavior from some where he may have been molested himself.. But you are right by not talking to them. Your son and his needs need to come first; Maybe a religious leader in your area my also help you.

Answer 3

they are going to talk on your son and make him delicate. they are going to probably word him by way of a 2 way mirror, twiddling with a doll, and see what he does to the doll. they are going to ask him if the failings he does to the doll have been carried out to him. detect a toddler psychologist it is especially knowledgeable to handle youthful infants, because of the fact they are going to %. up on issues much less perplexing than a psychologist it is knowledgeable for infants. i'm sorry that that's so problematic for you, however the before you get the issue solved, the better.

Answer 4

i had this problem with my babysitter. what happened is the sitter was prosecuted but the attorney had to have my daughter see a child psychologist. the psychologist did role play with some stuffed animals to see exactly what happened. there was me, the police, and the attorney there behind a mirror. my best advice is to let it be. he is thinking what happened was his fault. leave it for the professionals to discuss with him. just be there for him and love him. my daughter also wet her pants after this incident. she is now 16 y/o and she is doing just fine. she is not promiscuous, or on drugs. she is in fact on the honor roll.

Answer 5

I'm not trying to be condescending, but ask your 3 year old if he's 40, or something silly that the answer should be 'no'. He might say yes. My brother-in-law did a test with his son (who we know he's never molested, that's just disgusting). But to prove a point he asked his 2 year old son if his daddy molested him. He said "yes". Then he asked his son if he could fly and he said "yes". He asked a few more silly questions and every one was "yes". Just be double sure that your son was molested. I think it unlikely from a 9 year old to understand what she was doing but more out of curiosity. Good luck!

Answer 6

if the girl was nine,why did you not report it.she is and was the one that needed help.and who touched her..and if he is yelling are you sure it has not happened with some one else..give the Psychologist time to work on the problem..and let him be a child..order on line good touch bad touch..a story about fish and a bad friend,,

Answer 7

they will more than likely do play therapy with him as a 3 year old can not tell you how he feels this can be a very touchy subject but make sure he knows you love him and what happened wasn't his fault

Answer 8

Most likely the psychologist will be very "simple" with him (for lack of a better word). Asking him loads and loads of questions and talking and asking more questions would only cause him to shame himself for what his cousin did to him.

I actually don't think a psychologist is the answer here. I think the 9 yr. old that touched him needs to be talked to and punished, and your son should be told that his bottom (or whatever you call it) isn't for others to touch. Don't make a huge deal out of it or it will shame him.

Answer 9

I am sorry for your problems. If you have time E-mail me @ [e-mail]. I have more incite, but would rather not discuss it here.